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I was feeling very lonely when I left Mass in Saint Patrick’s Cathedral right in the heart of New York.
Suddenly I was approached by a Brazilian:
“I very much need to talk to you,” he said.
I was so enthused by this meeting that I began to talk about everything that was important to me. I spoke of magic, God’s blessings, love. He listened to everything in silence, thanked me and went away.
Instead of feeling happy, I felt lonelier than before. Later on I realized that in my enthusiasm I had not paid any attention to what that Brazilian wanted.
Talk to me.
I tossed my words to the wind, because that was not what the Universe was wanting at that moment: I would have been much more useful if I had listened to what he had to say.
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SR, PAULO SUS PALABRAS ME LLENAN EL ALMA, QUE EN ESTOS MOMENTOS ESTA MUY VACIA, MUCHAS GRACIAS !!!!!!!!!!
It may seem pathetic but my life is being held right now by your words. I read the prayer of forgiveness several times a day hoping that I can convince myself to convert it to reality. My selfishness has plunged me into the loneliness that I struggle with now and I read and re-read all that you write. I dont know how this story ends but I just want to thank you Mr. Coelho for having this power over words to be able to affect my life so greatly.
“God gave us two ears and one mouth, so we can hear twice as much as we speak”
Dear Mr. Paulo Coelho
your short writings inspire me like no other writer did..
I Love Your Words.
Those who are lonely are those who never listen.
Love the story! :)
Sono sempre stata convinta che sono i libri a cercare le persone, almeno nella mia vita è sempre accaduto questo. Bene, ho letto Aleph e mi sono sentita completamete coinvolta, forse perchè sono anch’io una spalla, con gli occhi verdi…l’unica cosa che vorrei è avere il coraggio che ha avuto Hilal nel prendere la sua vita e farne quello che realmente desiderava e sentiva, anche infine lasciare la carriera violinistica e cambiare tutto. Io non ho ancora questa forza, grazie Paulo
Dearest Paulo
I learn a lot of your great stories and books,Thank you so much…
because I learn to live my dreams….
E’ proprio vero! Presi dai nostri problemi, pensieri, preoccupazioni, dimentichiamo che gli altri hanno bisogno di essere ascoltati più di noi.
Avvolte pensiamo che i nostri pensieri siano i più bisognosi di ascolto, quando invece non è così. Ascoltare è meglio che parlare. Tramite l’ascolto possiamo essere utili per gli altri e ingrandire il nostro cuore e la nostra anima e sentirci in pace col mondo e con noi stessi, perchè consapevoli di aver aiutato una piccolissima parte del mondo che ha più bisogno.
Grande Signor Coelho, i suoi scritti ingrandiscono la mia anima e la mia fede, e mi risollevano nei periodi che perdo la mia strada. Che Dio la benedica!
Querido Paulo. Es un gusto saludarte.
Como todas las últimas Navidades te escribo para solicitarte el Cuento de Navidad. Lo estimo como uno de mis mejores regalos. Por favor, incluye a Venezuela en tus visitas. Aqui te queremos, te admiramos y te agradecemos tus palabras. Sentiría como un milagro la oportunidad de conocerte en persona. Feliz Navidad y un próximo año lleno de nuevos sueños que perseguir.
Un fuerte abrazo
Belis
PD: Extraño los correos con “El guerrero de la luz”. Leerlo era como tomar un te caliente con miel en un bello atardecer.
suas palavras são sábias, provocam emoções surpreendentes, leio todos os seus livros, mas sempre releio. Brida e o Alquimista são os meus preferidos. Estou lendo o último q voce escreveu…são penetrantes e abençoadas suas palavras. MEU MESTRE!
I do that all of the times… I talk non stop, mostly cause I see no conversation coming from the other side… n I would not blame them if they are actually not that interested as I put all of my mind in front of the table n give them not that much of a choice other than listen. But yes I should stop and listen rather than talk like crazy as if my life is more important that theirs. But what a difficult task that is.
Thanks Mr. Coelho, I see what u mean, but that’s how we learn, at the moment we don’t see it but you’ll know next time, you’ll be prepared.
Dearest Paulo!
Everything is in divine order. You are in alinement just because you are willing to question yourself! But I do believe that maybe without knowing it you already gave the stranger all the answers he needed. Not meaning that we shouldn’t be aware of others needs… ~More so acknowledging that there is so much going on that we don’t need to control.
Thank you for inspiring me in tremendous ways!
Love, Rayla
Some people aren’t listening , they’re just waiting for their turn to speak !
Dear Mr.Coelho,
We all humans, don’t beat yourself up, we all make mistakes, we can’t judge ourselves we have to forgive ourselves and accept it and move on.
With love,
Barbara
We are so obsessed with our own selves that there is no patience or inclination to listen to others, not even to God, the permanent resident of our heart.
Muchas veces no interpretamos bien la ayuda que Dios nos brinda en nuestro camino.
Quizas ese hombre queria decir algo para que Paulo no se sintiera tan solo.
De todas maneras gracias a su experiencia que transmitio, obtuve doble aprendizaje y me recordo que tengo que hablar menos, cosa que ahora no estoy haciendo.
Abrazo
Sometimes we get so caught up in our own little worlds — so deep into ourselves that we hardly notice what those around us are requiring of us. When we meet someone who appears to be happy to spend time with us, listening to our stories while we’re attempting to impart either wisdom or some lesson — it’s so very human to feel enthusiastic and want to share with that person whatever comes to mind. It’s almost like we’re trying desperately to form a quick bond of friendship …already believing that the other person could possibly be a kindred spirit (or a captive audience). Sometimes I think we’re so anxious about sharing our stories because it’s like we want to leave behind some kind of evidence that we once existed — once lived — once impacted other human beings through the sharing of intimate details about our own lives that underlined our presence here on God’s good Earth. We all want to know we mattered and that our own personal stories have merit and relevance. The sad part is that if we get so caught up in just telling our own stories, and don’t stop and listen to those of others, we tend to lose so much more in the longterm because it’s only through listening that we honestly gain real wisdom, insight and clarity about life’s happenings. “Wisdom is the reward for a lifetime of listening … when you’d have preferred to talk.”
May be the passerby was the divine himself and had known you need to get all that you said out of your system….and only so he was there….to help you do away with your loneliness.
That sounds beautiful!
Love & Light, Rayla
A very simple and clever reminder that the value of giving, in this case giving of yourself by listening, benefits two people, the listener and the one being listened to.
Let’s always be “selfish” in our giving so that we both benefit – this is similar to something I read in one of the Dalai Lama’s books.
With love, Natalie
Some people feel lonely because they are really lonely, for example those who didn’t have a family, or those whose family memebers ignors them. Those are worthy to feel lonely.but there are people who feel lonely because they interprete their life as a lonely life. And a think who ever we are and how ever we look and we think, there is sole who thinks about us and who hopes a good life for us, because life and the world is not smaller to deny us the right to be together. Whoever we are and where ever we are there is someone who thinks about us even we don’t know them or we never heard about them.
and anyway.. sometimes we do hear, but not listen.. :(
Listening without asking questions is my big challenge.
Listening is a skill, sometimes a gift. Even so, we may find ourselves at one time or another talking more than listening & really hearing the other person.
Self checking if we are being present & aware (ness) should be all our second nature.
Cuanto hay que aprender para escuchar… a veces compartir nuestras experiencias… cuando tenemos que deternos a ver los ojos de las personas para saber hablar o escuchar!! buen escrito.
yes.
That is why I guess the silence is more precious than the talks :)
When i read this, i desperately wish if i could be the person who hav met with paulo and make him feel bad for talking many things to me. I just thought if it could be me and how good i would feel, how my life could be changed,how much experience would i get And i realized how z guy who meet paulo is lucky.
I’ve never seen a soul detached from its gender,
but I’d like to. I’d like to see my own that way,
free of its female tethers. Maybe it would be like
riding a horse. The rider’s the human one,
but everyone looks at the horse.
Chase Twichell
Learning to really listen is one of our most important lessons in life, though much of communication is extra sensory whether we realize it or not: so although your words went to the wind, the wind is a powerful force. If you are still in Nyc by chance, I very much ‘need’ to talk With you…The Alchemist was randomly given to me as I boarded a long train ride to Tangier to return to Sevilla, and I didn’t know what it was about (even though I have worked with many bestselling authors)~so it was a very magical experience to read…..living in countries where didn’t even know the languages was one of the least lonely experiences I have had: would love to share how your writing partially created that experience, Sometimes our own words require some interpreting to really listen to them
CARA THELMA,
PER ASCOLTARE LA MUSICA DELL’ANIMA CI VUOLE L’ORECCHIO FINE DEL CUORE !
E non tutti gli esseri umani ce l’hanno: qualcuno non l’ha mai cercato, qualcuno l’ha perso, ma tutti potremmo ritrovarlo.
Cerchiamolo, allora!
E ci sentiremo meno soli, le nostre anime potranno ascoltarsi e dialogare anche senza parlare.
Buon Natale a tutti!
DEAR THELMA,
TO LISTEN TO THE MUSIC OF THE SOUL TAKES THE EAR LATE HEART!
And not all humans have it: someone has never tried, someone has lost, but all we could find him.
Let’s look it up, then!
And we will feel less alone, our souls can listen and talk without talking.
Merry Christmas to all!
( Bing Translation)
Dear Margherita, THE music of the HEART IS ALWAYS THERE! It is His ‘sparkle’ inside us! Silence and love will ‘guide’ us!
Blessings.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
“sarebbe stato molto più utile se tu avessi ascoltato quello che da tanto tempo ho da dirti”
“sarebbe stato e, forse, è ancora utile a tutti e due se tu volessi ascoltare quello che ancora e sempre ho da dirti”
“sarebbe stato molto più buono e caritatevole se tu non avessi continuato a parlare, ma tu avessi piegato la tua schiena ed i tuoi occhi verso chi ti implorava di ascoltare le sue profetiche parole, che tu hai ignorato”
“ancora tu lo puoi fare, ma se tu continui a parlare, e mai ad ascoltare,, perseveri sulla tua strada che, hai ammesso, sia sbagliata”
- Perchè l’essere umano si conforta e si autocompiace nei suoi stessi eterni errori?
-Perchè la storia si ripete all’infinito?
-Perchè tanta durezza di cuore, tanta sufficienza, quando abbiamo bisogno degli altri, ( e di tutti gli altri, nessuno escluso) come dell’aria che respiriamo ogni istante, per leggitimare la nostra esistenza?
-Perchè ci lamentiamo che siamo soli, quando facciamo di tutto per esserlo?
Perchè?
La risposta vale un viaggio: su questa terra, verso un punto preciso, e dentro i confini del cuore.
Il viaggio di Santiago, quelli di Paulo, quello di Brida nella foresta o il tragitto della transiberiana e tutti gli altri, saranno stati vani se, alla fine il cuore non avrà imparato ad intenerirsi. E ad ascoltare.
I think as the life is devided into twoparts, there two kinds happiness and two kinds of paines, life is built by the succession of these two major forces, but our humain sole is weak we give considerations to our paines much more than to our joy moments, I mean when we are in paine we forget that we loughed one day and we shared a wonderful moments with people we loved, and if we count these moments I think we will find them much more than our sad times. thans Paoulo to remember me that life is a succession of good and bad things.
I am someone who is never heard or respected for who I am and what I have to say.I get so lonely . I went into self exile because it was so painful to be shown how alone I was. I found when the fight came into me I was desperate to be heard. It made me sad to be so desperate so I started to talk to God and the angels ,saints and masters. Now my words are heard and I can listen to others in peace. I still feel sad about this at times but I am no longer lonely or alone.
I often feel that way, and regret it. It’s no way to make friends.
I’ve learned that talking isin’t always the best thing to do but how should I bear my loneliness? I guess what I’m asking is do you have any hobbies? because I am finding it hard to express myself in any way or do anything at all for that matter, including connecting with anyone including my family, on any sort of personal level. I know that this is just a blog but I hope you can help just as I am taking my process one step at a time and trying to help myself. Thanks.
Sincerely, James Berry
Indeed, we are often approached by people that possibly are very moved by what we have written or said…and we feel the urge to tell them them more about the things that have inspired them to approach us… we think , consciously or unconsiously, that they want to hear more from us…but in fact THEY WANT TO SHARE THINGS WITH US… and it might be exactly what they need to share but also exactly what we need to hear…and we missed the chance by being too much concerned by our own thoughts. When this happens a few times, feeling unsatisfied after the meeting because we were shortcoming … we get aware that the next time we will open up to LISTENING instead of talking. But it’s o.k. to find out that we are not perfect yet as long we can tp commit really opening up by the next encounter.
yep that’s the problem sometimes when one becomes famous, he or she think that people want to listen to them only but that’s not alwaysthe case, they might also want to speak to that person :)
xx
Personally i think,life teaches us various sets of experiences. Although it seems,what you wanted, you had delivered but what He wanted,you were unable to realize. Your shared experience can be explained in many ways by many people as God has given everyone his own way of expression. To me, a person has some rights in this world. To fulfill them is a duty for other people. In the same way a person has some obligations and he should deliver honestly to the world to protect his right. God will forgive them who couldn’t fulfill HIS rights but HE will not overlook the rights of other people which a person owns to others. Regards
sometime i think that we are more interested in telling our story (center of the universe?) than listening to others. thanks for the reminder . .
Paulo you are my favourite author in the whole world!
Your stories, always expand my mind, opens my heart and makes my soul sing.
Thank you for being a great human being.
Love Sharon xox
I very much need to talk to you, interesting choice of words. Seems as if he was mirroring what you needed, to speak to someone about what is important to you and for it to be with someone you find comfort in such as another Brazilian. But that seems to be only one part of the story. The rest is the next time you get told words of this kind you must be totally present and listen for the message you are receiving. Second chances are only the universe preparing you for something coming your way if you only see the signs. The day you recieve your message will be a day of clarity and another part of your journey we a life. Enjoy your train ride.
don’t be sad. you’ve learned. and that’s matter most. God is good. all the time.
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