(This text, which I found on the Internet, is attributed to me . I did not write it, but I think worth reproducing here)
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them;
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back;
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something;
I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned that no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take it’s place.
I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re downhill are the ones to help you get back up.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that maturity had more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
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This is by far the BEST advice I have heard in a long time. Thank you Paulo, you are always there when I need a boost. My Alchemist book has been read over 50 times….and is on my night stand. Your words are powerful. Thank you.
It’s all our special relations who ignore us and take our love for granted. Actually the sensitive people like me get hurt when not returned the same sweet kind gestures. Our dear one’s hurt us to the extreme. Oh1 God, how someone be so mean and selfish. It’s difficult to believe but true that people make you weak and their attitudes throw you to die.
Great…Lets comment one, or 2. e.g.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something;
Maybe more, but the truth come out once…yesterday we had a class and each had to make a presentation. Some girls who do not bother to come often, but go to beauty farm and dress showy, made a second try ( one time they copy all from net.) I read on the screen but was boring, and seemed I already heard that…All of a sudden, prof burst: I cant stand that anymore, how dare you to present my text? (lol) mystery solved. They said did not know was her text, bla bla. I wondered how they were touched. Only when they found out they cannot attend exam and dean will be informed, one of them start crying…the other 2 still laughing. OMG. And they dream to graduate?
Another true, and harsh: I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them;
but being pleasant might help. One must work, else is like hell.
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Ты на исходе лета написал.
Я прочитала,с осенью прощаясь.
Зимой я осознать смогла:
Священная весна..не состоялась.(Времена Года)
I shall no doubt read this everyday , till it is imprinted in my brain, so that I can remind myself.
Its a bit like a condensed version of a book of wisdom and a guide to living and loving!
This is the translation of a Romanian poem which is the work of Octavian Paler. Find here the original text:
http://octavianpaler.ro/comentarii-si-citate/am-invatat/
I learned by Octavian Paler
We have time …
We have time for everything
To sleep, or to be all over the place,
To regret mistakes and do them again,
To judge others and find excuses for ourselves,
We have time to read and write,
To correct our writings, and regret what we wrote,
We have time to make plans and never complete them,
We have time to fantasize about impossible things
and later on to look into the ashes of them.
We have time for ambitions and diseases,
To blame fate and the details,
We have time to watch the clouds, TV commercials and shocking news,
We have time to not answer questions,
To postpone the answers,
We have time to kill a dream and recreate it later
We have time to make friends, and lose them
We have time to get lessons and forget them later on,
We have time to get gifts and not understand them.
We have time for everything.
But we don’t have time for a little kindness.
When one does they are dying.
I learned some important things in my life and I would like to share them with you.
I learned that you can not make somebody love you
All you can do is to be a lovely person
the rest … depends on others.
I learned that it does not matter how much I care
others don’t.
I learned that it takes years to win somebody’s trust
and it takes just a few seconds to lose it.
I learned that doesn’t matter what you HAVE in life
all that matters is with WHOM you have it
I learned that in the first 15 min you can impress somebody by using your charm
after that you have to come up with something smart.
I learned that you don’t have to compare yourself with what other people are best at
you have to find out what is your best
I learned that it does not matter what happens to people
what matters is what I can do to help.
I learned that each episode has two faces
I learned you should part lovingly from those you love
It may be the last time you have the opportunity to see that person
I learned that you can run a long time after you said that you are exhausted
I learned that heroes are people who do the right thing
when it is needed
not caring about the consequences
I learned that there are people that love you
but they do not know how to show it
I learned that when I am upset I have the right to be upset
but I do not have the right to be mean
I learned that you can have long distance friendships
the same applies to love
I learned that if somebody does not love you like you wish
It does not mean he or she does not love you from the bottom of their heart
He or she will occasionally hurt you
And you will forgive it.
I learned that it is not enough to forgive others
sometimes you have to forgive yourself
I learned that regardless how much you are suffering
the world will not stop
I learned that your past can have an impact on your personality
but you are responsible for what you are going to become
I learned that, if two people get into a fight
it does not mean they do not love each other
And the fact that they do not fight does not mean they love each other.
I learned that sometimes you have to put the person first and not their actions
I learned that two people can see different sides of the same incident
I learned that indifferent of the consequences
those who are honest with themselves are the winners in life
I learned that your life can be changed by strangers in a few hours.
I learned that when you think you have nothing to give
your friend can call for help, and you will find the strength to help him
I learned that talking and writing can help to heal your pain.
I learned that you spend too little time with people you love the most…
I learned that is very hard to know when to be nice
so you do not hurt people but you still sustain your opinions
I learned to love so I can be loved in return
From:
http://secret-snow.blogspot.com/2007/05/octavian-paler-romanian-writer.html
Hi,
This is a poem written by a Romanian writer and poet, Octavian Paler. He has written it in Romanian, and this is its translation into English. I’m from Romania and I am so glad you appreciated it! It’s a wonderful poem!
Dear Mr Paulo,because we need to respect the truth, the lirics are written by Mr OCTAVIAN PALER,an important writer in ROMANIA!!!!!!!!!!!his soul is now NEAR GOD……
dr CRISTINA RADULESCU,FROM ROMANIA.
Irespect you ,and i read your books,but the truth is important…………i think for everybody in this world……….wish you only the best……..
Prima di tutto ho imparato ad accettarmi come una persona fallibile.Ho imparato che riusciamo a vedere l’amore negli altri solo nella misura in cui la vediamo in noi stessi.Allo stesso modo per la gioia, la sofferenza..molto dipende da come ci ascoltiamo.Ho imparato che comunque vada ,vale la pena vivere e condividere speranze e sogni.
mi piace quanto letto sopra .
This is my Favourite Poem!!!
Thank you Paulo for such inspired words and
Compliments!!! what a hero for your opinions on Pirate Coelho!!!
You’re still my favourite writer, because, before being agreat writer, you’re a Great Person.
Cristina B
Still not sure what LOVE really mean… Happy and Pain I supposed. When I look at the word LOVE and read out inside me… gives me the feel… this word LOVE have a warm feeling in the heart. But dont understand why so much pains and hurts to follow in life… I should change my thinking to the happy look the word LOVE gives me… Love is pain… why we all still looking and searching for more pain… I really dont understand? Well… like to write more about my silly feeling on LOVE… but a phone call few mins ago wash out the mood to write more… Dad pass away brother just call… but my feeling of LOVE to him is dead… I got a thank you need to send to GOD… my passbook is not ready! LOVE is pain… but the word still look nice to many… so is me… it hurts but feel warm when I see that word… LOVE… Thank GOD for all your LOVE… I need to change my thinking on you now… to believe GOD!
What beautiful text, which essentially is said in few words, and where everyone can find what touches them personally. Is not that the talent for a writer? I think what touches me most is: “I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.”
But mostly, what I learned in this life or the others, is the immensity of what remains for me to learn, and what most is still unknown to me.
Quel texte magnifique, où l’essentiel est dit en peu de mots, et où chacun trouvera ce qui le touche personnelement. N’est pas cela le talent pour un écrivain? Moi, ce qui me touche surtout est la phrase: “I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.”
Mais surtout ce que j’ai appris, dans cette vie ou dans les autres , est l’immensité de ce qui me reste à apprendre, et que l’essentiel m’est encore inconnu.
wow…its great….only hav to read again and again…..!
true..
Some of the sentences are attributed to a romanian writer named Octavian Paler…Anyway, they are so true..
http://octavianpaler.ro/comentarii-si-citate/am-invatat/
This is a very impressive list. We have learned many things till this day, and will continue to learn until our final breath, for education is an ongoing process; there is always something new to learn and more experience to be gained. This is how we grow, and I think the essential is that we keep our hearts open to absorb anything that comes our way. And the better people we become, the better we will be able to help others.
Thank you for posting, dear Paulo. Best wishes to everyone.
This is the translation of a poem written by Octavan Paler, a romanian writer and poet. I am from Romania and I am very proud of this!
You are right, the more we learn in life, the more we grow as human being – “better people we become, the better we will be able to help others.”
It’s true. It was written by the romanian writer Octavian Paler.
Thank you for doing the work you were destined to do and sharing
Baie dankie dat jy die werk doen waarvoor jy beskore is, en dat jy deel. (Afrikaans spoken in South africa)
i love those lines.Very True….& Life is just like that
Wonderful words Paulo, they are very true…love Avantika
Varför har vår vägar inte korsats förut,Jag har mött dig tidigare känner en stark tillhörighet då du uttrycker dina tankar som korsar mina.
One thing that I realized is, you can never ever let anybody run your life. You just live, love and let go of what life offers. And in the end, learn and make use of it for a better you, for your sake and others!
A sign and my favorite of all: “I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.”
I have learnt that we live once and every day that we live should be considered as if it the last day we live so that we die content
Thank you for a beautiful post!
I really agree with each and every line. A really nice read! ^^ Thanks!
I have learned that in every circumstance the choice we really have is to choose kindness over unkindness and cheerfulness over sadness.
Love
He aprendido que todavia tengo mucho que aprender
Thanks for sharing. The best thing I could do in that moment of my life.
Everytime I read this, its like the first time! thks!! I really love read everyday your blog, comments and books!!! :) …and I still learning!!!
Palabras universales. No importa cuantos idiomas existan. Siempre habran palabras tan sinceras y profundas que viajan en el tiempo, en las redes sociales y en los libros para ser traducidas y comprendidas hacercarnos un poco más a estas vivencias humanas que nacen de un empírico y he aprendido que el compartir es siempre una satisfacción puede que un día me vea compartiendo en la dicha, así como tambien compartiendo en una tristeza y he aprendido a aceptar con mas humildad, no cuestionar tanto, y he aprendido que el ser prejuicioso nos limita y condiciona y es un una absurda tonteria. Gracias maravilloso Paulo… CHILE.
fantastic and so true!
These beautiful words were written by Octavian Paler, a Romanian author. You can find the original text on his site
http://octavianpaler.ro/comentarii-si-citate/am-invatat/
I’ve learnt that even when you’re going through some really difficult times and everything seems really bad, at some other point later on in life, you’ll realise that it all happened for a reason and you have become a better person because of it.
que bueeeno!!!! gracias por ésto!!!!!
muuuy bueeeno!!!!! gracias por ésto.
Thank you for inspiring us even through others words. The right website link is attached on this comment.
Precisely what i needed to read…
wow!!it just made me realize that I’ve learned a lot without me knowing it.
Beautiful words of wisdom, surely given to be shared. Thank you for sharing xx
“I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.”
I’ve learned that you ALWAYS have to forgive yourself…
I’ve learnt that there is ALWAYS a positive to be found in the darker moments & worst experiences of our life.
Thank you for posting this, Paulo.It seems to find it’s way to me when I need to remember the sentiments in it most. I can see why people would credit you with this piece because it possesses the same quiet, simple wisdom that, in my eyes, you possess as well. :)
Dear Paulo Sir,
You have posted an excellent collection of Yours !
These are hard facts of life !
Rather, I would like to say Inevitable Facts Of Life Cycle !
Happily expressing , I’ve almost witnessed most of these cruel facts in my life!
Sir, cordial thanks for sharing .
God Bless You .
i received that email way back in college. it somehow got lost and i am really trying to find a copy of it. i am so happy to see it here again. it is so good to see the full version here. the version in my head only contains only about five lines. ^_^
Several readers claim several different authors wrote this text. At this stage, the most “voted” is Octavian Paler (from Rumania).
Estoy aprendiendo, quisiera decir he aprendido que perdonar es necesario para olvidar…
Ciao Paulo,parli italiano,vorrei parlare un po’ con te,sono una giovane sempre alla ricerca con qualche consapevolezza che tendo a voler ignorare,adesso ti chiedo..non ignorare me…siamo tutti strumenti..
I have found that not every person find true love in a lifetime. Then there are people that truly love, but never experience to be truly loved by someone else. And I have learned that there are people that are truly loved, but will never know it…that is sad.
My eyes wet, when I was reading the text. There are so much inside, I already learned, too. Not by reading, but by painful experiences.
However, I also learned, always do my best with an issue, if it’s still not working, then it is meant to be so by God’s will,to either test me or teach me something, and I don’t blame myself or suffer from it for too long.
wow that is like punting a lifetime experience in a few lines .. u can’t replace the words or put another one cause all of them really fill it’s place in the right way .. only who went through it understand ..
me what i learned
-sometime u only know the answer like knowing 1+1=2 but u r not meant to understand why does it always have to be 2 not 3 or 4 .. and trying to understand the why will only drive u crazy & waste ur time to understand what u already have the answer to it .. instead just give the answer u know and let it be.
- having a lot of people around me doesn’t mean I’m not lonely . and being alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely
- i learned what meant to be will always find away to be .. but u can’t tell what’s meant to be and what is not till u give it your all and try
- i learned that unless u r ready to walk in their shoes don’t judge people ..
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