CoelhoOffice 12 – Feeling useless

Videocast #12 – Paulo Coelho talking about how everyone once in a while feels useless.

Videocast #12 – Paulo Coelho falando sobre como todas as pessoas em algum momento se sentem inútil.

Videocast #12 – Paulo Coelho hablando acerca del momento donde las personas se sienten inútiles.

Comments

  1. alexander says:

    la utilidad es algo impredecible y dar siempre buenos ejemplos tambien
    uno no siempre es útil a las personas que le rodean, y eso nos puede llevar a sentirnos impotentes,
    y otras veces tenemos actitudes que no deverian ser tomadas como ejemplos por no ser de muy buenas.
    pero como todo , los humanos tenemos cosas buenas y malas, y las buenas pueden inspirar a otros y servirles de utilidad.

  2. thank you very much Paulo!

  3. LoveM says:

    You are manifest
    Because the Wholiness needs
    Someone just like you

    Everyone’s unique
    Not One without everyOne
    Each one adds value

    Value what you do
    In this way you can be true
    To all that is you

    Thank you for Being
    An inspiration to me
    A breath of fresh air

    Thank the Lord for you
    So we can know this beauty
    Of being me..you

    BlessedOne LoveM

  4. eleonora says:

    non credo a chi dice di non aver bisogno di nessuno..anche chi sceglie di stare su un ‘isola deserta necessita di tutto ciò che lo circonda per dare un senso alla propria vita..Preferisco le persone che scelgono di essere complementari nell’amicizia ,amore ,lavoro nella Vita.

  5. Annie says:

    For one thing, It’s never useful feeling useless…. :)
    “When you are yourself you are useful”-this is such a good quote!!
    and This is Such a wonderful podcast!!
    I so much loved the playmobils, and that the playmobils are on the top of the world :))) both young and old :)
    Also so wonderful to see Barbara!

    this podcast is use-full of treasures! thank you!

    Love and Gratitude
    Annie

    1. Barbara Z says:

      Dear Annie,

      Thank you for your beautiful words! I’m happy you like the videocast!.

      Love,
      Barbara

  6. Marie-Christine Grimard says:

    Etre utile, pour moi c’est essayer de rendre son sourire à quelqu’un au moins une fois chaque jour. Ce n’est pas facile, certains jours on n’a pas envie de se tourner vers d’autres souffrances, et on est englué dans la sienne.
    Dans mon métier, il semble facile de se sentir utile, par définition. Mais se rendre disponible, pour s’oublier et ne penser qu’à l’autre, est un challenge quotidien.
    Oublier sa vie, ses propres soucis, pour n’être plus que celui qui donne.
    Avec le temps, cela devient une seconde nature. La récompense est immédiate, dans le soulagement que l’on lit dans les yeux de celui qui a besoin d’être rassuré.
    Je me souviens de ce vieux couple marié depuis 60 ans, et pour qui le temps ne compte plus, les chiffres et les mots s’envolant dans les brumes de la mémoire qui s’enfuit. La douceur que l’on lit dans les gestes du conjoint qui accompagne les réponses hésitantes de la vieille dame, d’un hochement de tête, et d’un sourire attendri. Je me souviens de leurs sourires jumeaux à la fin de la consultation, rassurés par les quelques paroles que nous avions échangé. Avec le temps, les gens qui s’aiment, finissent par se ressembler. Et je me dis, que tant que la vie m’apportera l’occasion d’échanger de cette manière avec d’autres humains, je trouverais la force de donner encore et encore, jusqu’à ma dernière goutte d’humanité…
    Mais on peut aussi partager des courts moments tout simples. Il suffit d’ouvrir les yeux, lever la tête et regarder celui qui nous croise dans la rue, simplement pour lui sourire et dire ‘bonne journée”. Parfois, dans notre monde brutal et inquiétant, c’est un gros effort. Parfois ce sera un petit plaisir qui illuminera le début de notre journée.
    Simplement se regarder au fond des yeux, et laisser sa peur s’envoler, aller vers l’autre, se sentir utile, parce qu’il est là et que je suis là, et que le temps d’un regard nous partagerons un peu de notre humanité.
    M Christine G;

  7. Dear Paulo!

    I had a dream in Paris this weekend. I spent a little holiday near Paris, close to your place in France.

    We were in the middle of the enchanted forrest in Disneyland. It was a remarcable dream about you and me and my dog, which I lost when I was a child. However the dream began with a sign from you, probably a normal reaction for reading your book all way long to Paris Aleph.

    A sign which was only a smile. :)

    Thank you for your Aleph and Hilal, I do hope to meet you one day, in the middle of the enchanted forrest, there are a lot of magical places in Romania, Transilvania.

    The dream ended so fast that I was unable to hold your hand.

    I send you my greatest love and respect,

    Júlia from Marosvásárhely (Targu-Mures)

  8. Eglantine Andrade says:

    Qdo acreditamos em nós, sentimos que estamos sendo úteis de várias formas, e em muitas situações! Sim, as vezes tem aquela hiena fazendo vc se sentir um bosta, sem serventia nenhuma, mas não ouças aquilo que vc trabalha tanto pra higienizar, tirar da mente e do espírito! Essa voz interior é bom ser analisada e vc Paulo nos ajuda muito com temáticas como essa!!!Grata!!!

  9. Sylvia says:

    Para mim, seu video foi extremamente útil!! :) Obrigada!

  10. MONICA says:

    Mil gracias por tener la valentía de ser tú mismo y compartirte con el resto del mundo !!! Un abrazo

  11. sergio says:

    Useful = full of use. I’m usepartial.. the rest of me is for the steelheap ;)

  12. Nancy Fernando says:

    Thank u so much
    It was so timely and very inspiring
    Every now and then, it confuses me, what am I doing?
    Living my or somebody else’s life?
    I just came here, and tears rolling down watching you speak
    ended up with a smile

    1. Nancy spoken trully, madly, deeply but with a smile in the end
      :)

  13. Antonio Mancini says:

    Raccogliere il frutto per non sentirsi inutili. Qualsiasi lavoro ha il proprio frutto .Personalmente oggi ho iniziato ha raccogliere i miei ,dei bulbi di narcisi ,tulipani ,giacinti , interrati in autunno hanno iniziato a fiorire e verranno esposti per il piacere dei visitatori.Il lavoro che abbiamo svolto in autunno che sembrava a molti superfluo viene alla luce in tutto il suo splendore ,mettendo in risalto la perfezione del creato” DIO C’E”. Mi auguro che anche voi ,qualsiasi cosa facciate ,raccogliate i vostri il più presto possibile ,il lavoro fatto con amore paga sempre. Antonio il giardiniere

  14. sui says:

    i love your video cast. I watch them everyweek. Thank you so much for sharing your positive inspiration with us.

  15. Heimo Kruschinski says:

    Useless? You are certainly not useless. Neither I. No one is useless. That’s the paradox. All people together, are completely useless. Not? What we have done in all those thousands of years? On the one side wonderful things that we destroy the other side with pleasure. This is inspiration. Much money as possible to earn, as quickly as possible, with as little work. Regardless of the consequences. Long live the growth. Thus the world, we can not change anything. It is better, probably, not to talk about it.

    I wish you all a wonderful day

  16. Yazz says:

    HAHA you useless? What should I say about myself? :)
    Every book you wrote inspired millions of people…
    THANK YOU

  17. Empié says:

    Yo tengo la suerte de no cuestionarme si soy útil o no, hago lo que creo que debo hacer, intento no traicionarme y no pasar la raya que separa el bien del mal, por lo demás trabajo en desarrollar mis capacidades, intento ser yo y no compararme aunque no siempre ha sido así, sin embargo aun sintiéndome inferior, nunca he intentado acabar con los demás para que no me aventajasen, reconozco que es un sentimiento malo y trabajo para cambiar mi interior.

    Quizá una de las ventajas de ser un poco autista es que no existe comunidad con la que compararse ni para lo que sentirse útil, intento mejorar y vencer las partes de mi personalidad que considero malas. No siempre ha sido así, pasé al otro lado, sentí cosas malas hacia los demás, pero no dejé que se apoderaran de mi. Cumplieron su función, me enseñaron, las resistí y me curaron, nunca dejé que el mal se apoderara de mi alma. En cuanto a la utilidad, no me importa el entorno, yo se que hago las cosas con buena voluntad, conozco mis limitaciones, conozco mi trabajo, y no me importa ser útil o no, me importa hacer lo correcto.

    Un saludo.

  18. barbara says:

    Thank you dear Mr.Coelho, as always you inspire so much:)

  19. Cristina B. says:

    Dearest Paulo, as Susana I listened to yor video while I was doing my daily job (which is quite difficult and complicate) and I was facing some trouble that other people put on my way, to make me give up…
    you video is “a sign”…
    I will go on doing my job.
    By the way how was the Saint Joseph party last night? Here in Italy, today the sun shines!
    Love
    Cris

  20. Maureen says:

    Thank you so much Paulo . You are such an inspiration to me -you constantly remind me why we should live life to the fullest.. Take care.

  21. Susana says:

    just listened to your video cast as I was cleaning the kitchen cupboard under the sink !! …and I stopped to look at the video of the story of the bee and the flowers and I thought…”Bless you..” simply, because there is a deep understanding in your words of the fight we have..because it is your fight too..There are many times when I’ve wondered if I’m being useful in the the work that I do..when I think about it, when I question this, it is a sign that I have an appetite for my work and this doesn’t mean I’m” unsatisfied”, simply that I want to do more of this thing…
    Thanks Paulo..I shall go blissfully back to the cleaning… xx

  22. shanti says:

    You, useless? Come on please . . .
    Your stories that remind us that we are all part of the human family, no matter what.
    The winged words you create that remind us that we are all in this together, each and every one, counted & valuable, always & forever.
    Please, so silly . . .
    Put your mind instead on what really matters . . . like love, blue skies, a good soup, clean sheets and the warmth of the day.
    blessings*

  23. Adriana says:

    Dear Paulo

    It feels so good to hear you and to realize you are just like the rest of us, a person who questions himself and tries hard to get the meaning out of a seemingly barren existence .
    You talk about the devil and you’re right.
    Fighting the enemy within is, sometimes, a matter of self knowledge and getting to know it will make every blow of its sword less powerful.
    Regarding the inner oponent I happen to have to write an essay on a mythological analysis of a fairy tale about two weeks ago. Despite the story is blacklisted by feminists, I chose Cinderella because I wanted to understand why I had always liked it that much. And I was not dissapointed.
    I found such an interesting approach to the tale in which Cinderella’s stepmother is actually her own shadow portraying overt self-criticism. Once in a while, she is able to get rid of it and that is why she considers herself worthy of attending the ball and ask the pigeons that silver and gold be thrown down on her according to Grimm’s version. There is no fairy godmother, but the courage of a girl who is tired of being a victim to her own shadow. Analizing symbolism, the author of the essay concludes that the tale represents the alchemical process of transmuting coal into gold or the differents stages a woman undergoes to become her greatest self.
    I am so thrilled by the interpretation I’ve been trying hard not to let my shadow to take over the control now that I can easily identify its voice. And I ‘ve been feeling like a princess too.

    1. Nancy Fernando says:

      interesting ……..

  24. Jen says:

    I really enjoy these podcasts! Thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself with us…you are always an inspiration and I consider myself blessed for knowing your work. Gracias!

  25. Mary says:

    You are so nice! Why are you so nice? I think you help a lot of people. I know your books help people. They helped me. Thank you!

  26. I’ve always loved Mondays and your weekly podcasts make me love them even more! “Be yourself and you are useful” is such great advice. Shine your light and your smile, it always makes someone’s day.
    Thank you, dear Paulo!

  27. Ciao Bella says:

    just felt for another song to share to night for you. you need to forgive forget the past, don´t sink with your sins but hold on to the surface, just like you tell us, and don´t build walls, because there are none, feel free and follow God who has no walls and no hopelessness, just think of the three strong words faith, hope and love and you will always be near God.
    we have had enough of wars, hopelessness, missunderstandings, violents and lies. Stop and believe that you have a mission on this planet to make if not for ourselves then for our loving ones. this is the song I thought of
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-be58fxOLvQ
    ciao again, have a good night

  28. Hector says:

    Tengo 73 anios y pienso que soy util por que el mar si es viejo y todavia da pescado fresco,

  29. Ciao Bella says:

    Hi everyone, today I write here on the blog just because I`m in a good mood and feel great, so I want to spread that message as good as I can. I am only a “normal” humanbeing, at least I feel so myself, but today I feel like having wings on me. Am I normal then, yes I`m perfectly normal, but I just have a great feeling that I want the whole world to know. I know that I haven´t been a good girl because I have not written to you Paulo, but don´t take it personally, I have had tons of problems of my own, that I had to solve. I have litterally had the whole world on my shoulders, like Hercules, or Atlas it maybe ´was who bore the whole world on his shoulders. Today I am not quite quit with my problem, but it has turned to a smaller one. That´s something positive, isn´t it?? I just have to kill it in the end. When I feel weak I listen to you as always Paulo, because you are my savior, my little angel…And somtimes to kill my pain, that is burning inside of me… I listen to music…sometimes it can be a song that won the Swedish eurovsion song contest..then I can again feel the energy that comes from all people on the earth, the divinity..
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4PMQB5zmAU
    Ciao Paulo;))

    1. Sheela Nandini says:

      Dear Ciao Bella, thank you for this song.Loved this one a lot among the three you posted.

      Love
      sheela

  30. Maria de Fátima says:

    Querido Paulo

    Você e tudo o que diz e escreve é muito útil para mim, que sou sua fã, como acredito para todos os seus fãs-leitores ou não.
    Adoro todos os seus livros e presto muita atenção em tudo que diz. Fantástico!
    Já me senti muito inútil por não me valorizar. Hoje sei e sinto que sou útil pra mim e para todos que me rodeiam.
    Deus o abençoe.

  31. cristina cabral says:

    Querido Paulo, que bom ouvi-lo, hoje dia de S. José, dia que vc comemora lindamente seu aniversário, rezando com os convidados, estarei rezando tb.
    Vamos tentar sempre transformar este mundo, pq Ele é nosso.
    Bjssss a todos, obrigado pelo video

  32. micaela says:

    Dear Paulo,
    You and your team are usefull
    Such a precious example and advice.
    I wish you health,
    Micaela

  33. richard hughes says:

    dear Paulo !!
    thank you for reminding me that the little voice in my ear
    telling me that i am useless is my ego playing tricks on me !!
    bless you

  34. Tina says:

    Simply beautiful and inspiring!

    It helped me recall the “its a trap” thing and forgot the “I am beautiful.”
    I thank Thee for helping you help me and other millions of people around the world. Theses are the exact humane words that I could not decipher.

  35. Well says:

    but who or what you are? why do we identify ourselves with professions? why at all think of ourselves in terms of useful and not useful? let us consider that it is also this ideal of labor that makes people feel alienated from their nature. and not only those people who seem handicapped to many of us.

  36. Siddhant says:

    I never thought i would listen to the voice who wrote the book lying on bed.

  37. Beautiful message. Thanks Paulo.

  38. Jesse Jaiquel says:

    Buen día Paulo,

    Soy colombiano (ojalá puedas venir pronto). Quieroque sepas que nadie en el mundo me ha cambiado la vida tanto como tú, además de las ganás de leer que generas en mí. Gracias por hacer entender realmente sobre el destino, cada cosa que me pasa la veo MAKTUB. En este momento estoy leyendo El Peregrino, y me ha enseñado demasiadas cosas, como cuando Petrus te invito a subir por la cascada y tú te negaste hasta que lo viste a él subir y cuando lo hiciste viste que no era tan difícil como parecía al comienzzo, o cuando hiciste el ritual en el árbol sobre tú muerte, fué muy intenso. Espero poder aprender cada día más de tu experiencia de vida a través de tus libros.

    PD: Como veo que muchas personas te preguntan cosas para tu blog, quisiera yo preguntar algo por lo que atravieso en este momento, ¿Qué piensas sobre las amistades, por qué las amistades suelen venir en los momentos más difíciles para ellos y en los momentos más felices míos y no al revés? ¿Será que cuándo ellos tengan momentos difíciles debo dejar de ayudar? Será demasiada mi ayuda?

    Mil gracias Paulo y ojalá vivas 10.000 años más para que nos sigas guiando, un abrazo colombiano.

  39. Natasha Novínsky says:

    Paulo…
    Eu nunca me senti inútil,mas muitas vezes incapaz!
    Me sinto incapaz quando não posso proteger uma criança da crueldade da fome,do abandono, do espancamento,do abuso,da morte.
    Me sinto incapaz diante da desumanidade de algumas pessoas.
    Me sinto incapaz diante de pais que preferem ignorar as ansiedades e perguntas de seus filhos e com isso os levam as drogas e muitas vezes há um caminho sem volta.
    Me sinto incapaz diante de governantes que tem o poder de mudar para melhor a vida de seus cidadães,mas não o fazem,pensam apenas em beneficio próprio.
    Me sinto incapaz muitas vezes de me fazer entender,e as vezes imagino que falo uma outra língua.
    Você tem o dom da palavra, e com ela consegue mudar o destino de pessoas em todo o mundo!Ser sábio e saber exatamente o que dizer e como dizer.
    Tá grá agam ort…Beijo carmim…

  40. Paola Giannetti says:

    Dear Paulo,
    you write the right words when I need them…
    I agree with you when you say that thinking about being useless is a trap of devil. It’s completely true.
    “To be useless” is a problem in our mind when we’ve lost the contact with ourselves and with our dreams.
    You are aware to be very important for such many people in the world: go on giving us your joy because in this dark period we need light, a lot of light!
    Ciao e baci, Paola

  41. Sheela Nandini says:

    In my case I have felt completely useless(and made to feel that way as well) so very often in my adult life for several reasons and it would feel so scary. It’s taken a lot to shake off that feeling and get out of that “trap/pit” as you put it, Paulo. I am still visited by such feelings from time to time but I do my best to stay out of it.
    About “being oneself” ,well, that’s been tough too…

    Hello, Barbara, good to see you. The roses are awesome(my favourite flower) and I liked the way you narrated the story. Thank You! :)

    Paulo, I have been thinking a lot about Trees ever since your post on “Blessing The Tree.” There is mention of a Wish-Fulfilling Tree in our Tradition called “KalpaVriksha”. That has turned out to be a reality in the most miraculous way in my case although one went through a lot of pain in the process.(What’s life without pain anyway?) I am so grateful to God for this.
    Somewhere on Earth, there is always Someone who is sent by God for you.And if it weren’t for God’s Grace,one couldn’t even recognize them.We may not always receive what we want, but we do receive what we need most.It’s been my experience and I am thankful for that.

    Signs everywhere-The Tree,The Rose,The Ocean. SelflessLove.Abundance.Joy.

    Love
    sheela

    1. Barbara Z says:

      Thank you so much dear Sheela!!

  42. nina ramirez says:

    Estoy de acuerdo que la única manera de cambiar el mundo es siendo uno mismo.Somos lo que somos y éso proyectamos,tratar de cambiar va contra la esencia de nuestra naturaleza misma!!

  43. Sylvie says:

    Dear Paulo,

    Thank you for this podcast. The question of being useful is so difficult I think, because we are torn apart between being and doing. Am I only because I do? Am I useful and therefore worthy of love just because I do, produce something? Am I not just enough because I simply live and breathe?
    For instance I used to have a bleeding heart about the ecological disasters around the world, and feel ashamed and guilty to even turn on the faucet to use clean water when others around the world don’t have access to it. At my tiny level, I felt completly useless and maybe worse, like a burden on this planet.
    I’m starting to think that the active act of doing isn’t what is constantly requested of us (even though it’s nice and great when we do act and create!), but maybe our mere presence on this earth is enough, as long as we are conscious of it. Like when we enjoy a walk on the beach or in the woods. As a communion with the mother earth around us, and thus the vibrations we emit, carrying out our love for her, for our world. Maybe this silent prayer, built in each of us, is enough? When we are conscious about the beauty of our world, when we tell the land we walk on that we love her, that is a beautiful thing. An act of communion. A gift from one to the other. The earth who gives herself, the human who receives and gives thanks in return, aknowledging therefore the divine.
    It’s so disappointing not to be a super hero and fix things with a magic wand. It takes so much work to be human! I console myself at my individual level by choosing to put my conscience in what I do, and forgive myself when I mess something up, learn from my mistakes, and have the courage to choose to do better the next time.
    Love,
    Sylvie

  44. Yan says:

    Dear Paulo,

    yes, you are useful. You inspired a lot of people, and are still inspiring a lot. I believe, if everyone of us can do a little bit of good deeds within our abilities, together we can change a lot. And of course, everybody can do something nice to the world, as you mentioned in your video. And by doing so, we are changing the world, and we are useful.

    You must have heard of this story:

    After the tide, a lot of small fish were stranded in a shallow puddle on the beach. A boy saw this, started to scoop up the fish one by one with hands and then throw them back to the open sea.

    Some adults saw this, said:” What are you doing? It’s useless, you can’t save all of them, and who cares?”

    The boy didn’t look up, and while he was still throwing the fish back to sea, he murmured to himself: “This one cares, and this one cares, too.”

    love

    Yan

    1. Alex says:

      Thanks for that beautiful story, Yan.

  45. Isabel says:

    Te doy las Gracias, porque hoy me has Recordado, que somos Utiles cuando nuestro corazón hace aquello en lo que nos sentimos en Sintonia. Ser árbol, Ser Pájaro… A veces nos empeñamos en ser aquello que desean otros, aún matando nuestro Brillo; y entonces no somos ni lo uno ni lo otro. De hecho dejamos de Ser vida, para pasar a ser sólo Sobrevivientes. Ser nuestra vibración, Reconocerla y mirarla a los ojos sin Miedo, sin Vergüenza, sin Pena. No pensarlo, solo Ser… y conducirte como tal.
    Isabel

  46. Wanderlaini Aparecida Rodrigues says:

    Bom dia Sr.Paulo!!
    Me admiro cada vez mais com sua coragem, simplicidade apesar de ser tão rico, e com sua generosidade. Como é bom ter você com suas palavras que nos encorajam e mostram uma forma de pensamento real e bonito.
    Ontem eu vi você dando uma entrevista no fantástico por meio de rádio, sobre o filme do Raul, e vi a mosca que passou por você, muito legal sua entrevista. Te admiro cada vez mais! Obrigada beijos! Wanderlaini.

  47. Olta Canka says:

    THANK YOU!

    1. Olta Canka says:

      You are very relaxing to listen at, when you speak all you have to. :)

  48. Mat says:

    The first challenge on the spiritual path seems to be the discovery of one’s true self, true ego, true identity. And the next step can be to establish the connections with other true egos, true identities. Thanks Paulo for your books which show me how to do the first step.

  49. Alexandra says:

    THANK YOU.
    You would not believe, but I was thinking such today…I thought I am 41, no kid, no book published…If I die, I was useful to something? I thought God knows. So amazing it was the topic for today in your video. How nice a surprise, but with you happens often.
    God Bless You
    Bye

    1. Alex says:

      Of course, you are useful, dear Alexandra, because you are present in the world. Remember the river and the tree in the story?.

  50. Oscar says:

    You really are, Mr. Coelho.
    But I can’t find out how to be too.