In one of my books (The Zahir), I try to understand why people are so afraid of changing. When I was right in the middle of writing the text, I came across an odd interview with a woman who had just written a book on – guess what? – love.
The
journalist asks whether the only way a human being can become happy is to find their beloved. The woman says no:
“Love changes, and nobody understands that. The idea that love leads to happiness is a modern invention, dating from the late 17th century. From that time on, people have learned to believe that love should last for ever and that marriage is the best way to exercise love. In the past there was not so much optimism about the longevity of passion.
“Romeo and Juliet isn’t a happy story, it’s a tragedy. In the last few decades, expectation has grown a lot regarding marriage being the path towards personal accomplishment. Disappointment and dissatisfaction have also grown at the same time.”
According to the magical practices of the witchdoctors in the North of Mexico, there is always an event in our lives that is responsible for our having stopped making progress. A trauma, a particularly bitter defeat, disappointment in love, even a victory that we fail to quite understand, ends up making us act cowardly and incapable of moving ahead. The witchdoctor finds and gets rid of this “accommodating point”. To do so, he has to review our life and discover where this point lies.
Why?
Because, according to the story that we were told, at a certain moment in our lives “we reach our limit”. There are no more changes to be made. We won’t grow any more. Both professionally and in love, we have reached the ideal point, and it’s best to leave things as they are. But the truth is that we can always go further. Love more, live more, risk more.
Immobility is never the best solution. Because everything around us changes (including love) and we must accompany that rhythm.
I have been married to the same person for 33 years, but methaphorically speaking, the same marriage contains several “new marriages” during our relationship. Our bodies and souls changed, and we are still togeher. If we wanted to keep on as we were in 1979, I don’t think we would have come so far.
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Один-пространство измеряет.
Другая-время подчиняет.
И ширина так познана была..
А так же высота и глубина.(ДАО)
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Love is God….God lives within each of us….it is our job to find God within
God is our example … God loves everyone, regardless of their faults
God forgives…. God is our example….God is love…God is with…Learn from God
Sim
Your story Paulo is wise and powerful.
The Warrior Spirit strategy is to seek out enemy thoughts that produce self-sabotage, to understand the forces that limit us. Often, just identifying an enemy thought is enough to defeat it. Shedding light on darkness diminishes its power over us.
Ofcourse Love is a very big word , With change and time one realises its vastness . It grows of its own . We only need to feel it . Love more automatically leads to Live more and Risk more … Paulo sir gratitudes for the broader insight ……
Thank you for wonderful text. The change is only constantwe never stop walking. love is always grow when you love more, it grows more no reson is needed for loving.
there is no bar for love:)
когда любят-не говорят много
Все “нет” и “не” любовью отменяются..
И только “да!- в любви всегда случаются..
I agree that everything is subject to change ,including love … But mr. Coelho if you are reading this, then i would like to know your opinion on – can love happen twice ?? Or is it that the first one is to be considered a mistake ?? ..
A question troubling me ever since i have known love ,movies,books and fiction ..
Helli Vidhi!
None have to be considered a mistake. The first love was right at that time and moment in your life. The actress Jane Fonda was asked if she ever regretted her three marriages. Her answer was “No”. She said that each marriage was right for her at that moment of time and that she does not have any hateful feelings towards her ex-husbands. Hate will stop us from moving forward, hate will eat us up.
She has the right attitude. Some people stay together for the rest of their lives and others just grow apart.
We all have our dreams and do our best to reach our goals, but we do not know what life has in store for us. Life is like a roller coaster – ups and downs, ups and downs. Mistakes? I do not call them mistakes, I call them stepping stones in your life, stepping stones to move forward. Evaluate and learn from what you have done and then move forward. I live by this rule.
we do have a lot of love within us…
the mistake is not love, whether it is a mistake or not depends on how much you understood it, then how you dealt with it…
we can even love simultaneously..
like the witch of portobello and brida, a person can love multiple people (as a woman/man) but chooses only one, the spirits, however, do dance with all their love.
Inspiring but doesnt give full justification for ones withdrawl from . Its a respectable gesture . But it hurts . People shouting .beeeeuuuutifuuul. Such people should be removed from such places . They are no good people . Having a house of your own doesnt give you liberty to laugh or mock on homeless .
Inspiring but doesnt give full justification for ones withdrawl from . Its a respectable gesture . But it hurts . People shouting .beeeeuuuutifuuul. Such people should be removed from such places . They are no good people . Having a house of your own doesnt give you liberty to laugh or mock on homeless .
Sometimes People Get Confused . Inner Struggles become so dominant that it takes some time to make the Right decision . But generally seen dialogue between the two generates Positive results only . Its win win situation for me as your Loves lost battle is battle you lost… If noticed and felt my poems souls too got transformed into new ….Afterall our souls are one have some connections of previous incarnations …though example used hurt but still Forgive and Forget ..
Wow i liked your Win Win formula . Lets End up with a Happy Note – Love more to Live more . So nice of you Paulo for such an informative and interactive session on your blog .
Yes, I do listen to my heart and try to be open to keep moving and allow transformations to new existences..
The other day, a friend was going, 4 couples to Las Vegas for the week end, and a group started to tell Vegas’ stories of drunk guys telling them; “y ouu arre beeeeaauuutiful..” and all the crazy stuff that goes on in Vegas. I almost felt like “I wish I could go to”. Then, thinking a bit about if I really want to plan and go to Las Vegas, on a second thought I really do not want to. It’s like I’ve been there and done that. The partying, the getting drunk, the telling dumb stories about what we did being drunk..
The people going this week end, spend a lot of their money like that, hand to mouth, having a lot of fun, without thinking to buy their own homes, establish themselves, settle down. When I arrived home, I told my husband, how much I appreciate having our own place, even if it cost us not to travel as much and means we have to cut here and there on other ways of spending your money..
We can’t always have it all, and have to prioritize.. & not forget to go for it once in awhile, to stay enthusiastic always!
Vits thank you very much
i also will dedicate it to my lov . I m waiting for my lov to call so that i can dedicate this to him. I hav promis him that i will not call him until he cal me . He is very cruel for not callin me til now but he is very cute and very good person. I lov him very very much .
Paulo it is heart touchin kind of lov definating you hav done .
how i came on thees page i was comenting on vits poem of Paulo on the scond page>>
A LOVE THAT ASKS FOR NOTHING AND GIVES NOTHING IN RETURN
IT IS SIMPLY THERE . I WILL BE NEVER YOURS & YOU WILL BE NEVER MINE
NEVER THE LESS I CAN HONESTLY SAY YOU I LOVE YOU.
Paulo the above reminds me about a few lines in Hindi i will like to share with everyone which is on Love & Golden Bygone days of Life …. I hope you will enjoy….
हंस के कह गए “वो” भूल जाएँ उन्हें
क्या रखा अब उस “कल” में
कोई जा कर कह दो उन्हें
कैसे भूल जाएं
हमारी तो सारी कायनात*ही
बसी है उस कल में
कोई तो उन्हें ये बताए
बाकी तो जीए ही कहाँ हम
जितना भी जिए
हम तो जिए ही उस कल में…..
*कायनात* – means whole universe.
(dedicated to my butterfly)
translation-
with a smile on her face
informally she said forget those
days ..there is nothing in the gone Past…
will some one do it for me,,,go and ask her
that how can i forget those golden bygone days of my life
the days in which lies my entire universe
someone please go and tell it to her
how can i forget those days ,,,how can i
i haven’t lived any other time in life
whatever i lived i lived in those days…..
Paulo coelhos Angelic signs concept also works . We all have Angels in our Lives need is to recognise them . They keep on sending the signs either by some unknowns mouth or in Alchemist languages . Keep your souls eyes open . You will get it . May be even this comment of mine prove to be a sacred message for someone . PC i get Angelic Signs . Thanks for letting me know about this Art. There may be delay in my reply but i got your point . Afterall Warrior of Light is often in disguise …..
Love changes …. Love changes….. With time everything changes …. Universe also changes …. I dont feel anything wrong if Love too changes…. Paulo sir is there anything wrong in it ? If no then why cant we accept it ? Whats wrong in it ?
I since I read the “Santiago” My life has changed. With the new road that I embarked on my path is clear thanks to the rediscovery of faith. We must keep walking and do not allow obstacles to stop. The obstacles we find them at any time. Letter from St. Paul to the Jews (11.1) “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, proof of things not seen” you will see that your life will be better. Thanks Paul you are a messenger of God
Benny …. You have a good and logical point , Generally seen Good lovers are Good friends first ….. If people are allowed to understand each other before Marriage or atleast they could have got some time and liberty for friendship things would have been better …. specially in countries like India where Marriage is still a big Gamble as is usually between people who do not known any thing about each other … As per the Law of Probabilty being successful in such case is only fifty percent …. Finally they have to Fall into love ( mind it ….THEY HAVE TO FALL INTO LOVE…it sounds awkward …but isnt it true ? ) as they dont have any other option available with them…. You are right conditions have changed in this Generation but partially …its still gamble success percentage may have increased to sixty percent but ….is sixty percent is enough ? On the first instance You may not agree with me but is not Marriage a game of Adjustments . To make it successful or to increase its longitivty we keep on making adjustments and keep on compromising with the situations and thereby Killing your innerself daily upto an extent that one day you dont recognise who you are ? Any how….. i may be wrong ? Not fully i hope ….. Paulo you are true we are always struggling within ourselves …so called… ” Inner Struggles”….
My personal opinion is once we understand the importance of “Friendship” and”love” in “marriage” …we should atleast promote it in coming generations .
Lets come on to lighter side lets talk someting bout life the most discussed topic ever….. I suggest see it with Paulos eyes and live it with Paulo ways…. You will start loving it…. Be a Warrior of Light .. Be and remain Happy With your Contradictions…….
Its Life….. its such ..it was such ….its going to remain such…..no one in the History of mankind could ever understand its mystery … You say its a mix of Tragedies … mysteries …. Paradox ….. Puzzles …. I have another valid phrase to it ….even at times its ” Comedy Of Errors “.. Ha ha…….
Completely agree with what you said. WHen we try to force love, or think it is only a sexual attraction then it is not love but lust. THose relationships lose their place eventually. When a friendship is established FIRST and two people truly treasure and respect each other , the probability of falling in love with that person and staying in love is much greater. When the “lust” dies down, the friendship and love are still there to remain untill the lust returns. we all go through seasons and they come and go as the wind, but eventually we return to the previous season, love should be this way…it is the ebb and flow of the sea at times strong and raging and at other times gentle and quie but they compliment each other completley. I want to be in love with my best friend first, then it become my lover and love of my life, without the friendship it will never work.
!!!!! But Paulo – would it be possible that this long marriage would have last so long with your first wife? Or is it possible to stay together for so long time only with your current wife? (sorry for my bad english i hope you understood my question and have a time to answer it.) Thank you.
Hi Paulo,
I would like to say something about the fictional story of romeo and juliet. It is said that the story of romeo and juliet could take a totally different twist if their friendship were not repressed by their parents. Romeo and Juliet did not end up committing suicide, they would have just been regular friendship – maybe above average friendship and they would not have fallen in love and getting married.
It is because the resistant put forth by their parents that they responded to the challenge by developing into loving relationship. In a social experiments conducted by university on toddlers, they seem to take the path of the most resistance although the least resistance path was offered. Remember in our young old days, we were extremely rebellious out of nothing when our very freedom were threatened.
In the same vein, if it is not for your parent resistance to your early writing ambition, you may not developed into “Paulo the writer” as we all know. It is tragic, paradox, puzzles, mystery.
If you love someone and that person does not get that fact means two things. Either he does see you as a friend. Or he is incapable of seeing himself as a changing person.
He does not realize that he is at that moment something new. Something new that you see in him. You love him and you see the things in him that are new to him too. He can`t change the view of himself. The reflection of him that you give to him seems to go to waste. BUT it may be only a matter of chronological time that he gets the new ideas of himself. And then he gets that you love him.
It is like a reversed story of Grimm`s Hansel and Gretel (with the exception that the kids are not related with each other). The love is the pieces of cookies and rocks the other one leaves for you when you get lost. Only when you realize you need to be found you can find back by discovering the pretty things the other one has left behind you… Every rock has your name. Every little piece of a simplest of things suddenly makes you realize a whole new things. Things designed only for you by the one who loves you and the one you love.
But saying these things aloud is for me now a whole different thing. It is like you have a recipe of love but no ingredients. I got into building business instead of growing living things. My man is a builder. I m a poor common farmer. I hope we both go out of jobs –> compromising to move into a skyscraper.
ASHRAY ….You may be exhausted with ingredients of ” Love ” nothing to worry … why don’t you try ” Friendship ” a recipe you excel at & moreover you have sufficient ingredients for it …. I can understand Being a Builder is entirely in contradiction to farming…. on one hand growing living things & on the other hand developing dead concrete jungles…. you can still keep your Passion alive by being in touch with your co-farmer friend .you should give yourself a chance…..PAT once said all errors are not evil…..you can refresh your farming skills sharing with him the latest techniques in Farming…. POOR Farmer might be waiting for your call …. YOU ARE A WARRIOR OF LIGHT ….. you will strike back…. being a Warrior I recognize your Strengths …… PAULO SAYS —-Every warrior of light has felt the fear of joining in battle. Every warrior of light has once lost faith in the future.
Warriors of light suffer over useless things, have some petty attitudes, and at times feel they are incapable of growing. They frequently believe they are unworthy of any blessing or miracle……. Come on dont get disheartened You CAN and you WILL…….
Right now i m on top of the world….. suddenly i find Lillies , red roses , tulips , daisies all over my garden ….. oh my dear poor farmer you still know the art…….i am touched ….. i am touched…..
Ashray if it would have been me in place of “him” i would have replied
“& in the game ….When came ” his ” turn……. to “his” utter surprise “his” love had painted each and every of the rock with her own Blood……..”he” fell on his knees …his eyes full of tears… he finds himself lost again but this time lost in your Divine Undeniable Immortal Unfading …..LOVE…….
Oh WOW how beautifully you have presented your feelings for ” him “….. the lucky “him”…. i am envious….you have a very good writing skill…. and seem to be a very Gentle & Pure Hearted Person….I Salute the Depth of your Thoughts….They are Profound & Soul Touching …….
सच्चे दिलों में है रब , सपनों में है मंशा उसकी ,
कैसे न होगी पूरी , जिसमें है खुद रजा उसकी …..
GOD IS IN TRUE HEARTS .. HIS WISH IN THEIR DREAMS…
HOW THESE DREAMS CAN GO UNFULFILLED ….ARE BACKED BY HIS APPROVAL…..
Paulo Dreams which we have shared shall never go unfulfilled …. Those are the DREAMS OF TRUE HEARTS……PAULO YOU ARE LOVE ….AND I LOVE YOU…..
Tiaamo ….. Tiaamo …. Wow …. What a coincidence ? Or is it my Angel sent me a message . I was just going through Paulo’s above lines with you in my mind . I heard the above lines on a music channel. Didnt know what these words meant . Just google searched for the meanings . To my utter surprise . Tiamo is a french word which means I LOVE YOU.I am into tears ,My Heart is flodded with Joy . I know its you , i got your message….. Paul o …. I dont have words … Just dont have words ……
Love leads to hapiness . I strongly believe in it . On the contrary its abscence makes the life gloomy …. Lucky are those who are in Love and are being Loved ….Every body doesnt get everything in life… One has to contend with what he has in life… I wish lots and lots of Love and Peace in everyones life ….
Whenever you are with someone you are loving them only very few realize it.
This is the truth i have been running away from . Deep down I realize it is the only Truth rest all are its imitations . I surrender to it ,
Truth doesnt require any support . Its complete and doesnt require to be proved .
Thank you Mr. Thomas .
this is so perfect on so many levels
Qualcuno lo può tradurre in italiano? Vorrei condividerlo con i miei amici, ma non sarei in grado
Love more
Live more
Risk more
Give yourself a chance….
Do what you like the most….
You are a Warrior of Light ..
For Warrior of Light often loses Heart ……
He believes that nothing can stir in him the Emotion he so desired . He is forced to spend many evenings and nights feeling that he is one of the vanquished , and nothing seems able to restore his enthusiasm .
His friends say ‘ perhaps his fight is over ‘
The warrior feels pain and confusion when he hears such remarks because he knows that he has not yet reached place he wanted to reach . But he is stubborn and refuses to relinquish his aims .
Then , when he least expects it , a new door opens…. ( lines from Warrior of Light )
I feel in place of Love is a Adventure Ride you replace Love with Life. Life is a Roller Coaster . The Biggest hidden Adventure in the ride is You can cease the Happy Moments for ever and ever if you know that your love is besides you . You can feel and cherish the EUPHORIA of those Happy Moments throughout the ride , once your Love is with you . Having physical prescence hardly matters , whether you communicate with each other hardly matters. The ups and downs both become Happy Moments .Purpose of the Ride( life ) is acomplished becomes full of Adventure Fun and Joy . Going up and coming down both start giving the same pleasure, You start enjoying the ride .
Franklin jones said
Love doesnt make the world go round …. It makes the ride worthwile….
I have a message for my…Love….wherever you are …whether you are getting my message or not …. Thanks for making my ride worthwile…. No regrets … No blame game …. I love you… You have changed me…. Promise ab nahi bigdunga…. I will accept life as it is …. I will always remain Happy… I know we are not going to meet nor are we going to speak ….but I believe in Angels… I believe in Love …. I will get the messages through my Angels…. Always be Happy …. Love you….
Thank you for this insight…I am right now in a point in my life when I feel that I could only not love anymore…”I’ve reached my limit”, I feel numb and it’s not because I feel complete emotionally but because I was tired. I was tired of loving and of hoping. Reading this, made me realize that I have something to look forward to,and in order to get there I must make that first step forward.
Thank you, Sir Paulo.
Hazel my above comment was in reply to your comment …
Thank you WOL. I think it’s time for me to read the Warrior of the Light.
It may be the point of resilience….. Dont take any decision in hurry …. Relax … Be cool and think for a while …. Is it good for all involved…. Do you feel guilty in taking this first step… Are you sure you wont regret later for todays decision…. Take it lightly …. Discuss with your friend…. Be gentle to your tender Heart …. If you feel it is going to burden your heart in doing so… Dont ever do it…. These inner struggles are going to prevail throughout your life …. Be Happy with your Contradictions…. Go through a book Valkyliries of Paulo ….. Sometimes infatuations trouble you …. You may get a good judgement to your first step…. But my intution says …. Dont take any step in very near future …. May God provide you enough strength in taking Right Decision….
Hezel…..All Errors are not evil ( by Pat from Pourtgal )……
I am in total agreement with you ….. But what you think of romantic love …. Can it be with more than one person… One more Love is for ‘ soul buddy ‘ or ‘ soul mate ‘…. But its for sure Loving someone can never be a Sin … Such a Pure Human Emotion can never be a Sin…. Its Gods Devine Gift to human kind…
Thank you for the insights, Pat. I understand your point…however, what I meant with the first step is to allowing myself to change with everything around me. I want to move forward, not because I have to but because of the idea that I still CAN move and there’s no limit in loving.
Thank you for this line : “Be Happy with your Contradictions…”
Hezel…. I appreciate your point there is no limit in loving .
Go ahead….. your new life a new marriage in the same strong marriage awaits for you.
Forget the Contradictions …. They are going to remain…
Life is short every moment is precious …. Forget the Past … Every thing happens for a reason… All this has happened to teach us a new lesson in life … Your First step awaits for you to be taken… Wish you a happy New Marriage …..thanks Paulo …..
for helping us to be on the Right path…
:..:….Will cherish the…….. Fragrance of your Love for Ever and Ever.
Paulo Coelho
Your books have a life enhancing impact on millions of people. I am one of them. Specially from Feb 12 to May 12 my life was a hell . Bitterness had fully captured my life . It was so bad time that I didnt want to live. Your books gave me a big support . I came back to life . I had a strong belief that my Love can not be such . I had a strong Faith in God and ofcourse my Love . Your books inspired me to regain my self confidence . I started moving . I left im mobilty . Things worked for me . I never thought that situations will change as per my wish. I got everything I required in my Life . I got back my Life . M very Greatful to you dost for saving my life . Paulo you are a Genius .
We only think we are married to the same person..
In truth everyday everyone of us is a different person..
There is nothing about us that is fixed even in a rigid person..
Every cell in the bones of our bodies is replaced every seven years..
Thoughts.. experiences.. likes&dislikes.. ideas&ideologies change over time..
But somehow we think that we stay the same and do not change..
Or that our partners should remain.. Forever the same..
The only constant in life is change.. What a joke..
Especially those who imagine they don’t..
Grace will change us all in time..
Whether gracefully or not..
sooner than we think..
Blessings LoveM:)
You rose in my dream like glorious dawn
Red orange yellow your divine velvet gown
Enfolds me with secret scent and sacred sound
A close embrace without space for I… am morn
If what you are seeking is outside of you
Be prepared to search forever…
If what you are looking for is inside of you
Then you can stop the search…
Cos…here you are…where you’ve always been ;@ONE
To get to the very heart of the matter..
You don’t need to go anywhere..
It is right here.. @Heart<3..
This Life is
Married to Change
Love is a constant surprise
Who's here this moment
Amo..ment to be..
LoveM<3
Paulo coelho sir ……
‘Sadness does not last for ever
if we walk in the direction of that which we always desired’
( from fifth mountain )
These words have proved life saving Mantra for me…. I acted on it …. It worked wonders…. Its my advise specially for people who have undergone some Tragedy ( unavoidable in Paulos words )….try this you will definately feel quite relaxed and relieved in this time of distress…. Fifth mountain is full of such healers…. Gratitudes Paulo….
I do not think love is a modern invention, I think it is a modern discovery, that simply still we do not understand. We’re always blaming the marriage and the love of our misfortune, but we can’t acept, that we got married without understanding why, or what are we doing; and we all “fall in love” without knowing that we have lived in love since the day we were born. Love is not a man, a woman, a mother or a child; love is alive and is within us, out, and about. God is love.
I totaly agree. We are always “in love”
Yo no creo que al amor es un invento moderno, yo creo que es un descubrimiento moderno que simplemente aun no entendemos. Siempre culpamos al matrimonio y al amor de nuestra mala fortuna, pero no aceptamos que nos casamos sin entender por que, o que estamos haciendo, y nos “enamoramos” sin saber que hemos vivido en el amor desde el dia que nacimos. El amor no es por un hombre, una mujer, una madre o un hijo; el amor esta vivo y esta dentro de nosotros, fuera y sobre. Dios es amor.
“Let it grow” – Eric Clapton. “Let pass and let it grow. In the summer ain´t no snow. Love is lovely!
(my version)
Let it grow
let it grow
Let it blossom
let it flow
In the sun
the rain
the snow
Love is lovely
let it grow.
(version Eric Clapton)
Thank you for sharing this, it never ceases to amazes me the way sycronoscity works within our lives. I am currently writing a book about the piont in my life were everything changed. It is a story of trauma, abuse, deception and so many others things. But ultimately it is about healing and turning a negitive experience into a postive one. When acting with courage and saying this is who I am warts and all we reach out to others to assist them on their journeys. Sorry, I do tend to ramble, dont all we writers lol. I thought the peice was insightful, helpful and it spoke to my soul. We need you in our world sharing your wisdom, thank you so much,
Its true that change is the part of life.. But accepting the change is the hardest thing to do… Atleast for me. Everytime any change happens in my life I panic…specially when my love reacts in a different way over some situation or does not do what he used to do. I know its kiddish and i should accept the change but it’s little difficult for me. He is the one who believes in accepting things as they are coming to you… Guess it’s time I should try and do the same!
Thanks for sharing this…
Love
Shreya
Shreya …. Neither you are going to change nor your love… This is Love… You wont leave Panicking and he wont leave teasing you . ‘ In Life Accepting every thing as it is’ is real brave hearts job it is tough (as per my personal veiw seems to be quite impractical ) . But dialogue on any issue can dilute the termoil . If you love him these small things can be adjusted. You both need to change . A mid way can be saught . But one thing I am quite sure that you guys love each other truely …….otherwise you wont think so seriously about these small things… Afterall these small things are of big importance in life… Paulo’s blog provides a very good platform for resolving many day to day life problems…thanks Paulo for mending the broken hearts…. healing the wounded ones…. reuniting the lost ones… Paulo you are an Angel…
Paulo says in Fifth mountain…
A child can always teach an adult you three things a) To be Happy for no reasons b) To always be Busy with something & c) to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires..
……thanks Paulo for showing me the path …. I am fortunate that i sometimes m kiddish… Childish … The most desirous & the Precious most thing in my Life I could get of my being Childish….
Paulo is well……an alchemist.
Did it say anything on how to change the ‘accommodating’ point if you are not a witchdoctor?
Paulo says
‘One is loved because one is loved . No reason is needed for loving . ‘
Earlier i used to think why i fell in love ? Why I fell in love with her ? But couldnt get any answer to any of my questions ? Finally stopped waisting my energy in searching solutions . The more I ran away from her the more I felt I love her… She has become ‘the zahir’ of my life … I find her everywhere …. Finally I have stopped restricting myself against the Flow (since after struggling hard there was no positive result ) . My prayers only consist of her well being and her happiness. I could only conclude that I LOVE HER….thats all…reason behind …. As Paulo says…. Its because I love her….
I agree. The day you stop changing ,you stop living
Im in a middle of a realtion crise ….. im not sure what to do now …. time will tell I suppose …. either we stay together or we move on in different directions.
Only God has the answer I suppose !!!
Love and light Jessica <3
When you stop walking-
Вниз сорвёшься и назад шагнёшь.
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Покуда жить ты хочешь иль живёшь.(Координата)
Thank you for the wonderful text. The change is the only constant in life. This is not always easy. Is probably similar to the skin of a snake. If it grows it is too narrow. It throws it off. I feel that sometimes in life like. I see in change a possibility to grow. And love is certainly a good growth hormone. Perhaps the only one. You have recently written something of Real estate in France. Real estate often leads to the fact that one is immobile. I once had a house. I had the feeling at some point, I only live for it. But if this “accommodating point” really exists, then there maybe also be the opposite. If I find him, I understand maybe the other better. But as Oscar Wilde said so beautifully: “I am not young enough to know everything.”
I wish you all a wonderful day
We never stop walking, there’s no such thing as resting moment, resting place. Never. But as we need to catch our breath sometimes, or we need to end the trip and possibly get to paradise on Earth.
That’s because of too much stress here, fear of getting hurt.
I’m getting back so many more memories from my childhood and one of them is that, I just knew, there is just no accommodation moment in one’s life. No one really stops walking. But I was surprised to see that they actually believed there was and one day, I found out myself it is ‘good’, comfortable to believe it…
Change is constant.
life is flowing water (always “anthak”-never tiring)..
flowing water is always fresh, stagnant water stinks….
……so have my elders taught me.
i do agree with u mr. coelho…
i gotta to tell u’ sometimes..i have stuck in my comfort zone otherwise i just scared to be different by changing…
tks for sharing and inspires me a lot…
Sweet but only for a Good Read…. But its all Ideology…. In Practical life.. I have experienced that The person you Love the most hurts you the most …. Giving not taking …. Not breaking …. Sharing sorrows… Promises unbroken…. Its all bookish….. Really the idea that love leads to Happiness is a modern invention and is fake ….Love finally Hurts and is a sort of Sweet Poison…. Addicted unknowingly reach to stages where they are of no where…. Agonised … Aloof ….
Despite of all above Its my deepest wish that May God keep him Happy wherever he is throughout his life because I love Him…..
I wish every married person a very Happy Married life …. Cherish each and every moment ….. Enjoy the’ New Marriages ‘ in your married life…. Let there be no accomobating point in your life…. Let your Love grow to Infinite heights…. May every one Live more Love more and Risk more…. Be happy ….always….. Forgive …..
another love explanation.. good points