Don’t scold the Lover

Moses heard a shepherd on the road praying:
“Lord, where are you? I want to help you, to fix your shoes and comb your hair. I want to wash your clothes and pick the lice off.
“I want to bring you milk to kiss your little hands and feet when it’s time for you to go to bed.
“I want to sweep your room and keep it neat. God, my sheep and goats are yours. “

“Who are you talking to?” Moses could stand it no longer.
“Only something that grows needs milk. Only some one with feet needs shoes. Not G’d!”

The shepherd repented and tore his clothes and sighed and wandered out into the desert.

A sudden revelation came then to Moses.

“You have separated me from one of my own.
“Did you come as a Prophet to unite, or to sever?
“I have given each being a separate and unique way of seeing and knowing and saying that knowledge.
“What seems wrong to you is right for him.

“What is poison to one is honey to someone else.
“Purity and impurity, sloth and diligence in worship, these mean nothing to me.
“I am apart from all that. Ways of worshiping are not to be ranked as better or worse than one another.
“It’s not me that’s glorified in acts of worship. It’s the worshipers!
“I don’t hear the words they say. I look inside at the humility.

“Forget phraseology. I want burning, burning. Be friends with your burning.
“Burn up your thinking and your forms of expression!
“Lovers who burn are another.

“Don’t scold the Lover. The “wrong” way he talks is better than a hundred “right” ways of others.
“When you look in a mirror, you see yourself, not the state of the mirror.
“The flute player puts breath into a flute, and who makes the music?
“Not the flute. The flute player!

“Whenever you speak praise or thanksgiving to Me, it’s always like this dear shepherd’s simplicity.”
from Rumi’s “Moses and the Sheperd”, translated by Coleman Barks

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  1. Loved it.. awesome….

  2. Julio says:

    As I understand the English story, Moses was offended by the sheperd’s prayer and so Moses scolded the shepherd. But God revealed to Moses and admonished Moses for scolding the lover (the shepherd) because the shepherd’s prayer is the kind that pleases God. (“Whenever you speak praise or thanksgiving to Me, it’s always like this dear shepherd’s simplicity.”)
    Thanks sir Paulo!

  3. Enid says:

    Nos cansamos de criticar las carencias de conocimientos de otros, ignorando la pobre visión que limita tanto conocimiento. Mientras exista seres humanos con carencias, padeciedo injusticia, hambre, desolación; ¿de que vale tanto conocimiciento si estos males persisten?

  4. Ritu Sharma says:

    too good….

  5. aditya says:

    wow. its beautiful.

  6. Mercy says:

    Hola, para mi esta hermosa historia se resume en la gran virtud de la tolerancia, nada es bueno ni malo, nosotros lo hacemos bueno o malo, y la oracion cada quien la hace como quiere asi que lo mejor es respetar al projimo yo misma cometo la imprudencia de criticar a mi projimo y es triste ver como me equivoco, tanto yo como todos los que practicamos la critica debemos aprender a mirarnos a nosotros mismos.


  7. David Pimentel says:

    al menos a mí­ se me hace difí­cil ser humilde

    digo que sé inglés porque he mantenido una conversación con un 5% de entendimiento a un/a interlocutor/a y un – 3% de buena expresión, y digo que sé inglés…

    hacer las cosas sencillas es la mejor forma de lograr que nada salga bien y perfecto porque las cosas se arreglan solas…

    lástima que muchas veces nos dejamos envolver por lo que nos dicta nuestra conciencia o mente y nos quedamos varados con ellos como si realmente fueran perfectos…

    que proclamo culpable de ser y comportarme con orgullo por pasar la factura a otras personas de lo que a mí­ me ha ocurrido antes

    gracias a todos por compartir lo que piensan de lo que el blog de Paulo Coelho nos enseña

  8. haseeb ullah says:

    God has created this world out of Love and treats His creature with Love , and asks us to Love and respect each other ,”
    so we need not to bothered that our expression of is not ideal , every one has the right to love God in his own way .

  9. Marcoantonio says:

    Si algo he aprendido en todas sus lecturas ha sido el sindrome de la humildad.
    Decimos y creemos que somos imagen y semejanza de Dios.
    Dios entonces es capaz de automejorarse, eso nos aní­ma, nos saca del confinamiento de pretender que ya todo está escrito; en cada frase nos encontramos un nuevo giro que, de nuevo, nos maravilla.
    Esa palabra de Dios renovada a cada instante, multiplicada en cada enseñanza nos llena en su cumulo de grandeza y nos indica que lo mejor está siempre por venir.
    Hemos de ser humildes.
    Gracias de nuevo.

  10. fatima says:

    é bom aceitar os outros como eles sí£o, isso dá a oportunidade de sermos tambem aceitos como somos, e isso me consola. saber que tem alguem que me ama e que está fazendo falta na minha vida e que a qualquer momento essa pessoa vai estar de forma real na minha presení§a, é isso que espero…

  11. Simples e verdadeiro!

  12. sidani says:

    tout simplement magnifique!! … quelques erreurs de traduction en francais.

  13. lez Febcom says:

    When we talk about love, we talk about God, because God is pure love. What I’m getting from this story is Don’t hate but give love

  14. Karim Nowzari says:

    As Mohammad Alishahi mentiond the story is by “Molavi”, the Iranian great poet, depicting the tale by the simplest lovely prays to God by a shepherd. And Moses at the end realizes that to pray God does not need any specific style and manner, but just the flowing of what heart and mind feels and thinks.

  15. Roman says:

    Simply super!!! Perfectly well! Very touchingly also sets thinking.

  16. mohamad alishahi says:

    a poem from very famous Iranian poerery ,molana(molana jalaledin roumi)(molavi).who lives in 14 century in Iran.
    the name poem is ( mousa and shaban)….

    1. Ali says:

      Rumi is not Iranian. His work is in Farsi or Persian language. He was born in Balkh in Afghanistan and lived in Turkey (Rum). He belongs to the world. please don’t spoil and demean the issue by limiting him and his work.

  17. lata sharma says:

    love has no language . He rejoices in the simplicity of worshiper. Rituals mean nothing to him

  18. Himani says:

    God has taught us to love, pray and understand….we are no one to question the almighty that why he has made someone else different from us…in some or the other ways we still connect with each other to reach some destination…

  19. Kealan says:

    It took me two reads yesterday and one today to finally achieve a translation ‘I’ understood! May we all have the freedom to love God in our own way – across all borders – even if we do not believe in a God, but still want to offer praise to something.

  20. fatima says:

    e sempre bom ver que a vida da gente está correta em algum ponto de vista, e a dos outros tambem .

  21. Irina Black says:

    В зеркале лицо пропало,
    Флейта чУдную мелодию сама играла..
    Мастерство осталось,мастер-растворён..
    Безименным стал..по рожденьи Он.

    1. Roman says:

      Если это Ваши стихи то это просто волшебство…

  22. Amirhomayon says:

    The original version in farsi:

    موسی و شبان

    دید موسی یک شبانی را به راه

    کو همی گفت ای خدا و ای اله

    ای خدای من فدایت جان من

    جمله فرزندان و خان ومان من

    تو کجایی تا شوم من چاکرت

    چارقت دوزم زنم شانه سرت

    تو کجایی تا که خدمتها کنم

    جامه ات را دوزم و بخیه زنم

    دستکت بوسم بمالم پایکت

    وقت خواب آید بروبم جایکت!

    حضرت موسی(ع) از آن مرد میپرسد ای مرد با که اینگونه سخن میگویی؟! وچوپان در پاسخ:

    گفت با آنکس که مارا آفرید

    این زمین و چرخ از او آمد پدید

    گفت موسی:های خیره سر شدی

    خود مسلمان ناشده کافر شدی

    این چه ژاژست این چه کفراست و فشار

    پنبه ای اندر دهان خود فشار

    گند کفر تو جهان را گنده کرد

    کفر تو دیبای دین را ژنده کرد

    گرنبندی زین سخن تو حلق را

    آتشی آید بسوزد خلق را

    چوپان چون این حرفها را از حضرت موسی(ع)شنید.ناراحت از کار خود:

    گفت ای موسی دهانم دوختی

    وزپشیمانی تو جانم سوختی

    جامه را بدرید و آهی کرد وتفت

    سرنهاد اندر بیابان و برفت.

    موسی پس از آن برای مناجات به کوه طور رفت.از خدای بزرگ به او ندا آمد که ای موسی این چه کاری بود که کردی هر چه زودتر بروچوپان را بیاب و از او معذرت بخواه!

    وحی آمد سوی موسی از خدا

    بنده مارا ز ما کردی جدا

    تو برای وصل کردن آمدی

    نی برای فصل کردن آمدی

    من نکردم خلق تا سودی کنم

    بلکه تا بر بندگان جودی کنم

    ما برون را ننگریم و قال را

    ما درون را بنگریم و حال را

    چونکه موسی این عتاب از حق شنید

    در بیابان در پی چوپان دوید

    عاقبت دریافت او را و بدید

    گفت مژده ده که دستوری رسید

    هیچ آدابی و ترتیبی مجو

    هرچه میخواهد دل تنگت بگو

  23. Comme quoi la nature est bien faite says:

    C’est Samedi.
    Alors j’ai lu sur le catalogue de ‘Nature e’t decouvertes’ un truc qui arrive a point.
    C’est le must de ..quartier pour la randonnee.
    Le’ Reveil de Santiago ‘pour les brebis egarees
    et pour le retour du changement de l’heure.
    Le ‘trepied nomade vert’ a egalement attire mon attention.
    Pour que le berger ne se trouve plus les pantalons mouilles.
    Fini de s’etendre sur le beau paturage vert
    Les brebis vont pouvoir enfin brouter dans le pre.
    On a pense a tout. Il y en a pour tous les gouts.
    Il y a la’ casquette saharienne’ pour le voyage dans le desert ou le ‘chapeau Zanzibar’ et la’ casquette Stetson ‘en cuir marron pour seulement Euros 99 .Je suis un neuf away from 999. :)
    Quant a moi j’opte pour la ‘libellule solaire dansante’ pour m’envoler…et je suis le guide parce que samedi.
    Continuez de sourire si ca vous dit. et compassion.
    Passez tous une agreable journee.
    Avec amour

  24. Teodora says:

    Love doesent have any borders, it is what it is – love. If and when you love somebody your hart is full with joy and nothing elles can make you unhappy. We are different but united with the same main caracteristics: we love and we need to be loved. We shouldn’t judge because we are not ready for it, we we should try to understand others . Love is a simple as it can be and how we feel is independent .

  25. Yan says:

    In reality, It is offen those who love you the most, be the most strict person to you. Like a mother, who doesn’t want her son to ruin his health. A teacher, who wants to help the students to build up perfection. If you can understand the intention behind that, you will not see it as “scold”. At least, in Asia, we think so.

    But I can still understand what this article means. Everyone expresses his or her love differently. And scold is often not a good way.

  26. Man Zur says:

    Very touching indeed!

  27. Beautiful! God is all-welcoming and all-loving. We are drops in the Ocean that is Him, and therefore the Ocean is within us!

  28. namrata gupta says:

    well said….a very good way to exlpain the love between god and their followers.

  29. We Shall says:

    True! Everyone should see the God the way they do :)

  30. Rachel says:

    When people are hurtful are they worshipful in the same act?


  32. Viraj Mahajan says:

    I seriously don’t get you. All you want to tell in this story is that there are many ways to love. The way to love differs person to person. And God sees our heart, he sees what we are from inside. Right?
    But how a person can understand that whatever the other person is doing is there way to love?
    How I’m going to understand that a person is loving me if he or she is scolding me, it might be possible that their way to love is scolding.?
    If anyone understands me then please do help me.

    1. estrellajimram says:

      I think the story is actually talking about not scolding, judging someone’s worship. God can see beyond the ritual, and the forms, he just wants you to be true, honest, authentic when you’re giving grace or praying or just talking to him. So, if you’re gonna scold someone for doing things wrong, think twice. And if you’re scolded for doing things the wrong way, remember this story… you know better.

    2. Rakesh says:

      No one will understnd dude its on d way d person take ur words as a advice r scoldings… Just b urselves true… If ur gf or bf loves u truely widout getting in others meaning dey will understnd…

    3. Maria Elena says:

      Well, i heard, there is something called tough love and its supposed to be love too. love that makes you be a better person and to grow in certain ways

  33. Andrés Torrejón Páfila says:

    …sñr. conejo…Dios te manda saludos…

  34. Renata Peres says:

    Maravilhoso. A suavidade de revelar que o melhor caminho é a humildade de coraí§í£o, sem julgamentos. O legal da vida é isso, cada ser em si, transforma um ato em aí§í£o, um toque em atitude. E Deus, ah, grande Senhor, que habita em cada um de nós. Feliz de cada um de nós, que temos vida, temos forí§a, temos um destino a cumprir. Obrigado Vida, Universo, belezas… que se manifestam em cada piscar de olhos. Renata M. Peres

  35. Olga says:

    Ese Rumi es la bestia.

  36. Erika Matos says:

    Respect and Honor the different paths that paint the picture whole. Less Judgement. More compassion. <3

  37. CG says:

    german translation

    Schelte nicht den Liebenden

    Moses hörte einen Hirte auf der Straße zu beten:
    “Herr, wo bist du? Ich möchte Dir helfen, Deine Schuhe zu schnüren und die Haare zu kämmen. Ich will Deine Kleider waschen und die Läuse absammeln.
    Ich möchte Dir Milch bringen und deine kleinen Hände und Füße küssen, wenn es Zeit für Dich ist zu Bett zu gehen.
    Ich will Dein Zimmer fegen und es ordentlich halten. Gott, meine Schafe und Ziegen sind die Deinen.”

    “Zu wem sprichst du da?” Moses konnte es nicht länger aushalten.
    “Nur etwas, das wächst braucht Milch. Nur jemand mit Füßen braucht Schuhe. Nicht G’tt! ”

    Der Schäfer bereute und zerriss seine Kleider und seufzte und ging hinaus in die Wüste.

    Eine plötzliche Offenbarung kam daraufhin zu Moses.

    “Du hast mich von einem der meinen getrennt.
    Wirkst du als Prophet zu vereinen, oder zu trennen?
    Ich habe jedem Lebewesen eine separate und einzigartige Art und Weise des Sehens und des Wissens und des Weitersagen ihres Wissens gegeben.
    Was dir falsch erscheint, ist für ihn das Richtige.

    Was für Einen Gift ist, ist Honig für einen anderen.
    Reinheit und Unreinheit, Faulheit und Fleiß in der Anbetung, dieses bedeutet mir nichts.
    Ich stehe über all dem. Die Weise der Anbetung soll nicht als besser oder schlechter als eine andere eingestuft werden.
    Nicht Ich werde in der Anbetung verherrlicht. Es sind die Anbetenden!
    Ich höre nicht die Worte, die sie sagen. Ich freue mich an ihrer inneren Demut.

    Vergiss die Phraseologie. Ich will Feuer, Feuer. Sei ein Freund deines Feuers.
    Verbrenne dein Denken und deine Ausdrucksformen!
    Liebende, die brennen sind etwas anderes.

    Schelte nicht den Liebenden. Seine “falsche” Art etwas zu sagen ist besser als hundert “richtige” Wege der anderen.
    Wenn du in einen Spiegel schaust, siehst du dich selbst, nicht den Zustand des Spiegels.
    Der Flötenspieler pustet seinen Atem in eine Flöte, und wer macht die Musik?
    Nicht die Flöte. Der Flötenspieler!
    Immer, wenn du Lob oder Dank zu Mir sprichst, ist es für Mich so, wie des lieben Hirten Einfachheit.”

    aus: Rumi “Moses und der Hirte”

  38. Kidoris says:

    do not say do not. censorer.

  39. Beautiful, a great way to jump into the afternoon.
    On the weekend, watched a benefit concert for children of The Bridge School.
    So many smiles and a lot of love on the stage. Moved me to tears!

    Never think you don’t have a voice, no matter how different it may seem, even from most around you.

    It’s stories from everywhere that help me grow. Thankyou!!

    ‘My brother… I have decided, I am at your service. I cast myself, with my eyes shut, into thy canoe, without knowing what I am doing.’
    – Atsena (Chief of the Bear Nation)

    Like Moses, open mind, open heart.
    Love and Gratitude,
    Jane xo

  40. Dunya Shamel says:

    Son of Adam Qabil brougt sacrifice gift to God as not-fresh vegetable and fruits and his brother Habil brought two sheeps to God. God accepted Habil’s gift… at this time of era no one knows a way how to pray…
    Thank you for nice story, dear Paulo

  41. nathali castro says:

    podre decir lo mismo que los demas una bella historia
    me parecen fantasticos sus libros ya tuve el placer de leer la mayoria de sus obras y creame que me an ayudado mucho a reflexionar sobre la vida aunque aun soy muy joven gracias a sus libros encuentro una paz inmensa en el interior de mi alma que vaya que es dificil de conseguir en este mundo tan caotico en el que vivimos hoy en dia se que ya mucha gente le ha dicho pero me gustaria decirle que lo admiro mas que a nadie en este mundo y le deseo que dios lo bendiga y que llene su vida de muchos logros mas

  42. ramesh says:

    Excellent. But the Truth is half told. He says he is the Alpha, Beta and Omega. You can interpret the way each has experienced him. Some might have seen only the Alpha, the other only the Beta and some only the Omega. Here the knowledge to understand all three is required to understand the Trinity. Here again ” Arive Guru” Means Knowledge is Teacher. Who is the Teacher.The Absolute Truth.
    In other scriptures, it is written as ‘ Tena vinaha Truna Mapi Chalati” (Sanskrit)meaning Nothing moves without his Consent. Here through that Shepherd, he must be showing the other face of truth to Moses in dealing with others. So accept others as they are, rather than being judge mental, He cam come in any form to teach you.

  43. Mina says:

    This sounds like having the same meaning with a story my grandmother used to say: “A monk was passing from an island and heard a poor man praying: “Lord, do not show me your mercy”. “My good man, do you realise what you are saying? You’re telling God not to give you anything good”. And the monk taught the poor man a prayer. Having done so, he boarded a boat to leave that place. Some time later he saw the poor man running on the water: “I forgot the prayer!” he was crying. “My good man, go back to your island and continue praying as you did before”.”