You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
(Khalil Gibran, The Prophet)
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Casamento, é a união perfeita de duas pessoas, no Amor, Companheirismo, Sintonia, Confiança, no Apoio e Respeito mutuo. Quando se consegue juntar tudo isto no casal, consegue-se uma Harmonia maravilhosa.
Desta harmonia, pode nascer uma familia, a quem se passam valores, a quem se educa de forma a tratar mais tarde, alguém com esta amplitude e dedicação.
O meu casamento tem toda esta estrutura, e é essencial que assim seja, pois só assim é possivel usufruir livremente e com felicidade de toda essa união, e assim, sermos 2 seres independentes, mas sempre presentes, na fusão de um só.
In India we have the tradition of arranged marriage, the parents look for a suitable life partner for you and you marry him/her. Few decades ago you could not even see the face of the other person whom you are going to marry. But these days one can actually meet the partner and approve or disapprove the choice of the parents. Still the divorce rate is going up. If our parents could bear with their spouses whom they married only on the basis of their parents’ wishes, why can’t the present generation cope up with the marriage ?
” Love is patient and kind
love is not jealous or conceited
or proud and provoked.
Love does not keep a record of wrongs
it is not happpy with evil
but is pleased with the truth
Love never gives up its faith, hope and patience never fail”
Corinthians
Two of my sisters used to always argue the point about whether if you decide not to marry your partner does it mean that you don’t love him enough to declare it to the world. My younger sister who was with her partner for many years and they had a child together argued that you don’t have to be married to be in a committed relationship and the older would argue that she is specifically avoiding marriage because there seems to be more to it than just a piece of paper and on and on it went. Finally the younger sister and her partner split up and about a year later my younger sister met a man she fell deeply in love with and for some reason she decided that she wanted to marry him. LOL
What is marriage? Are we talking about marriage as in the contract you sign or about convivency amongst two people in a “stable” relationship?
If it is the first, well I am married because due to my husband’s job we could not get a house without a marriage contract.
My friends got married because it paid off. My cousins got married because they wanted to be the princesses.
I know that some people marry because they believe in God and think that it is the right thing to do,(I do not know anybody under 65 who waited to be married to have sex) that might contradict with the above somehow.
i also know of people who got married so that legally things could be easier, let it be regarding children or financial matters.
So what about marriage? Well there is an option for every body.
What about living with the one you love? Yes that is hard to explain when you are not married isn’t it? No, it is just the same only that to some others, the importance is in the fact that they do not need of anything to conceive in their minds how they belong to each other. At the end of the day, that is the missconception. We only belong to ourselves and no-one else. That is my opinion in that matter only to be fair to the other subjects on this blog, this one doesn’t seem to be as important.
I got married when I was 21, a lot of people say that I was too young to get married, even my parents who didn’t want me to get married although I was pregnant. The truth is that I got married because I wanted to. I love my husband and I’m sure he loves me too. Everyday I make the decision of loving him and I renew my promise of keep loving him no matter what, with a kiss. I believe that love is a decision and so as marriage. My marriage is not perfect, it has its ups and downs because my husband and I are not perfect. Anywaywe we have joined our imperfections in order to feel complete and to try to make each other’s life better.
Dear AZUL,
I’ts not a controversy because life, each moment, each part of our body is changing always going towards the end of the life….or something….
The challenge is to accepte this situation and to evolve with it. I know that it’s not so easy too developp many virtue like tolerance or patience when you are tired after a day of work. Still we have to communicate and improve ourselvse to make the life of our partner happy too. One of my friend is always saying me when you feel happy you make your friends hapyy too….
Thank you ………………………..
This is a controversy, but I married and really, sometimes I very happy, after we did it you know, but I think when you decided to live with other person, your life change is like a second law of god, then you have to change many things of your style life. Sometimes you want to run away with everything, but maybe something more strong that you, to keep with this person.
A alliance between 2 peoples marked by the rings like the wings of love. I like the symbol of having 3rings in one representing the Divine TRinity. It’s a pact of fidelity and respect for a life on this earth….with one personn if we can………….
I understood it better since i have met someone who is like me, who have the same vision of Trinity in ONE because at the end of this journey of life on Earth we become One again. The body goes back on Earth and our souls joints together towards the HOLY SPIRIT of Cosmic LOve or Prem if we have sufficiently worked on that during our present lives….
All our actions are motivated by a intention, and if the intention is well so the rest also shoul be well…
Thanks Paulo for this reflexion