I decided to tell you about a topic that I’m interested in that you might think of putting on the blog. I’m so intrigued by grief and how people handle it…in regards to certain things or rituals that people might do to alleviate their grief (a reader).
Grief.
I know for certain that I would like to be, at this very moment, sharing my life with my love. But my love is not here. I am alone.
And bitterness is taking hold of my soul.
That is grief.
How can I handle it?
I don’t know. It`s sad for me to be alone when I would prefer to be with my beloved one. But I guess that, as A.V.C. wrote once, if I find the strength to endure this night, a new bright dawn will come. Soon.
I Hope …
Grief enables you to feel and see things around you what joy cannot. It makes you more sensitive and responsive towards other beings. You develop a better understanding of others’ sufferings and pains. This understanding creates a strange bond among creatures which is the building block of love and serenity.
Grief is an illusion of the human limited mind. Grief appears when the human kind don´t have the understanding to see the truth: we can never be hurted, we never die, we are never alone. By knowing who we truly are, why we are here, our ultimate nature, we can open our spiritual eyes and see that our grief is only a wrong way of dealing with certain steps of the Path. Those events take place because there are energies blocking our developement that must be understood and released. When people get sick, “lose” (we´re never lost, we`re part of a whole) someone our something, like a job, it happens because it has to, it is a mean to achieve a higher level of spiritual development, because it is needed for our own good. When things like these happen, people ask “Why me God?” and they tend to feel that it´s unfair, that it is a punishment, and they suffer;`cause they can´t here God answering to their question “Because I Love you my son!”. Like Paulo Coelho said himself “Por vezes, as bençãos de Deus entram estilhaçando todas as vidraças” (portuguese version, i´m sorry, but i´m portuguese and i don´t know the english version, it´s something like: God´s gifts arrive breaking all windows).
We need to grow, to develop our nature towards our spiritual matrix and to do so, we must be submited to certain proofs along the Path. Nobody said it would be easy, but we decided (yes, it was our decision) to be a part of the human drama. I`m eager for the time when we all reach that overwelming level where people see that there are no pein, only the unllimited Love.
Sofia (Portugal)
In grief I have found a window to the world, a way to connect to the people living in different corners of the globe who have gone through some form of grief. Whenever I feel lonely or angry and ask the questions ‘why me’ the answer that comes to me is always this one - if it can happen to so many other people why can’t it happen to you. I feel this is so right why do we want ourselves to be above loss and don’t want to feel it. A personal loss has made me understand how ‘others’ must feel when they go through life’s lows.
Driss I cannot agree less nothing lasts forever in this world. If happiness is short-lived so is grief a lot depends on how we deal with it.
Yes, it’s a powerful teacher. I agree with you. And thank you for your words.
But I … I also think that there must be another way to learn as well; a way without suffering or at least … what I mean is that if the Will of my Lord is to Help me through suffering, then I just want to tell Him that I need a balance … I need also a time to have Tranquility, Stability to be able to Grow. Peace.
I have Light but I need to feel that He is holding me close. My potencial is endless, but I need to have a place to build my House.
He knows that.
My Life is changing.
My Lord is with me.