General provisions:
A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;
B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;
It is hereby decreed that:
Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.
Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.
Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.
Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.
Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.
Final determination : Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.
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hmmm…. dunno wat to say.. i had a break up recently…
not a romantic break up…. jus th best friend (or th only good friend) Iv ever made in my life.. and you cant call it a break up either.. cos we have’nt officially ‘broken up’…
its just that we stopped talking.. or rather, she stopped talking… which is of course, a mad and petty reason to call it break up, i know… but somehow it feels like,its not going to be the same again…
but now i feel wounded… have been rejected by many people in the past… i never cared.. because even i never really cared for them.. but this one, I did… was the best friend Iv ever made, did i not tell you… used to share everything… and assumed naturally that i never would have to let go….
but somehow i feel unwanted anymore.. and Iv given up on hoping things would change for the better.. so its quits… id rather not have a relationship any more
well, easy to write… but it feels so shitty… that noone in the world really cares for you.. that you’r life doesn make a difference to anyone but yr mother!
Love it!! Are there any provisions in the “Convention” for providing forgiveness to those who have “wounded” you? and how?
But I like article 1, it takes two to tango, and there are 2 sides for every story
A timely convention -
The articles mentioned are quite ‘in time’ for all those who are in love, were in love and hopefully would be in love.
One amendment suggested though - in Article 1 the words ‘Consequently, anyone planning to love ‘ may be replaced with ‘Consequently, anyone who find oneself in love’ for can anyone really plan to love; love happens, if it happnes it does, if doesnot, it doesnot !
“And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.” yep !
aditya
beautiful !
All men die, but not all truly live…
I guess this applies here. But then again, can someone define love, or is it one of those things you must experience, to know what it is, I may have experisnced true love once or twice, but one have them has ended up in heart ache, the other is yet to have an outcome.
Then again, there are many types of love. Loyalty is a form of love. The way you love your family, the way you love your freinds, The way you love a place, The way you love a partner. I have xperienced all of these, but I am still un-sure of what true love is.
i will be a permanent member at any such convention Mr.Coelho.
like all issues handled by you, this one too tackles all angles of this rare gift called LOVE.
thanks for another great insight.
#Eben….
first, thanks for that comment… it made me feel really great….
and ya, do tell me how yr endevour turned out! do you have a blog?
This is brilliant. I always have to over-analyse words of wisdom (apologies Paulo I mean no offence but acceptance is not my thing) but I can relate to most of everything written in the convention without picking over it. Putting it into practice might be more difficult but straightforward things always seem the most difficult to follow.
One question though - in Article 2 it states you should ask the archer to shoot back. How long would you wait for evidence that the target has been acquired!? This is something I have always struggled with and I am sure other people do too. At times I have made up a whole fantasy in my head regarding the other person which has no basis at all. I find all this hurts me more than the rejection itself and is a misuse of my energy. Would you actively seek out the other person to ascertain what was happening? I always think these things are fragile and not to push them but then if the love is there it shouldnt disappear under such enquiry
I guess its true; to love is to live to live is to love.
Abraham
Hang in there mate….you will Love again, it is your nature, yes?
And there is Hope. I had been missing someone twenty years and grieved a death which never was and they came back to say…well, they came back to leave again, but it was sweetness to the bitterness of loss….I hope you can have hope.
LOVE to all
Love, please guide me to the understanding of my universe.
From the deepest pits of hell, to the highest of heavens.
Love, I need to understand all. It can’t wait.
Thank you for being both swift and patient, both severe and merciful.
Love, I Love you! You are the true justice and the ultimate law of nature.
mmm..everything in these words are hits..they connote rationality..
Abraham,
I used to think I could go through this this world without love, this was probably because I had never experienced love properly, then, it happened, of course my heart, at the end of this relationship was damaged, but to experience such affection towards another human, was worth it.
I have gained and lost many friends over the years, and at that time it did seem extremely sad and heart breaking, to watch them slowly drift away. But sometimes it is natural for friends to drift away, and sometimes you cant stop it. I have learnt this through first hand experience. This friend of yours, if she were so great, wouldnt you be out there right now trying to talk with them ??? Funnily enppugh, a message I like to use a lot which has a lot of spiritual meaning to me if of a programme thats supposed to be a comedy, my freind, nothing in this world thats worth having comes easy, so go fight for it !!!
AVC
Beautiful x
#Leaf
in my nature? oh yes yes…. in fact nature that is mine believes that everyone is good, and to be loved, in a foolish sort of way that I suspect, smells of laziness too (laziness to accept that if people can be bad, then you have to take precautions in dealing with them. so, you go on pretending that everyone is basically an exemplary human, and just reconcile to crying at the end of every bad incident:) )
i know that this relationship will come back again.. but i doubt the warmth, the mutual understanding and trust to bare th mind will ever return. in fact, i really doubt i want it to return…
#Tom
In fact, I guess thats consolation. that i learnt I am capable of a higher love.. but its funny. i used to always say that now that I have made a friend, I am capable of bettering it. and now, th feeling is, if i am not able to hold on to one relationship, then will i ever make something worth cherishing…
but then, like i read on another blog, these things happen to everyone at some point of there lives… so no need to get gloomy… and im sure ill do better next time
anyways thx….
and everyone, Im not feeling depressed or anything.. in fact i got over it quite fast….
Hi Paulo,
This is the first newsletter I have read , besides your interesting blogs on my space ,I guess the best way I could explain this is to reflect upon the movie city of Angels, I have a you tube of it on my page ,one of my favourite films
Would you give it all up? Better to have loved and lost than not to have had it all!! But when you have it emotionally ,physically,spiritually you have been blessed .
Abraham
Friendship is the basis of all relationships and we should not forget what a powerful form of love it is. I read once that a true friend is someone you can walk silently with and when you part, you feel like you just had the best conversation of your life. Although i can understand how you may feel wounded by love you should not look at this as a break up or in a negative light. There are moments in life that we have to take a step back, even from the people that we love just so that we can figure ourselves out. You were not her friend on condition she talks to you or even loves you back all the time. You should have some faith in each her and try not to over think this. I know you are missing her but try to focus on yourself and don’t let it get to you. I’m sure she’s not intentionally trying to hurt you and chances are she doesn’t even realise she’s shutting you out. Sometimes it happens to the best of us. Have faith that she will open up to you again once she is ready. And maybe just let her know that you are there for her when she is ready. I can assure you, she will appreciate it and will find you far more comforting that way. In the mean time, do things you love, listen to great music, dance your nights away and experience life! I hope you are able to soothe your pain for a bit and start to realise that maybe there’s still hope and everything happens in its own time.
Lots of love
Yajna
PS. AVC
Thats really lovely. Mwah
Dearest Friends and Paulo,
I’ve been pondering over the last few days as to what exactly to say here. Truth is i read this previously on Leaf’s blog and found it to be rather lovely- since i could identify with it. I find that from then til now i have grown as a person, and i understand by what he ment at the end of it- saying, ‘And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.’Truthfully because of my heart break i do feel as though i’ve lived. I’ve experienced so many good things- i’ve deepened friendships, made new ones and boy, did i go on a path of self destruction partying! lol. I doubted my career and fell in love with it all over again. I was reminded of how incredible my family family and of course, i came searching for this place and found it
I seeked out more things to love so that i could soothe the pain of losing something that i did love. These last few months have been an emotionally roller coaster for me, and at many times i felt as though i was just going to fall off it and plunge to my death. But i held on, and i survived and although i may have may moments with tears, i find that through it all i’ve learnt alot. Last saturday i turned 20, lol, a whole 20 years old and out of my crazy teenage years! i don’t know why but by some werid away i feel like i’m more a woman now. I feel grown up far more because i’m not in that fairy tale romance- i’ve experienced the tragic pain love can bring… but you know, i still love… I don’t know if its a good or bad thing, but i know i’m a stronger, and that no matter the pain inflicted, at the end of it all, i will still love. Or atleast try to. Who knows where life’s going to take me, who knows what my next roller coaster will be like, i just know that no matter how bad things may seem, there is always hope, and some where along the line good will come off that situation.
Thank you for being
Lots of love
Yajna
Love -
it has many connotations, love between generations, love between friends, love felt for even inanimate ‘things’; this convention probably focuses on the love between man & woman, which is very …….
everyone who loves, has at some point, the expereince of ‘loosing out’ in love, articles 3,4, 5 and final determination as written above by paulo is the ‘path’.
ultimately, all the love that is there is meant to turn the focus inwards, and see that from where love originates, once one is aquainted with oneslef, loves oneself, getting hurt in love becomes difficult; when in love all one can think of is giving, where is the question of getting hurt.
aditya
Love … Can Love save me from this nightmare?
What is Love? What is this Life? What is Light?
I knew Light and Joy once, but that was a long time ago. Long time ago. Now, darkness is what I am knowing, what I am experience.
I wish someone could help me because I am staring to forget what was Life. I don’t understand why God has put me here and the only thing I can do is ask for Help. I need to go back to the Light.
Abraham,
Through my personal experiences, I think loyalty and friendship are worth having more than having a partner, I know, it is wonderful to feel love towards one particular being, but I think loyalty is a thing worth treasuring in these harsh times, the world has lost its honour, and through travelling with friends across the country, I have found a unique jewel in all those I have be-friended, and indeed in some of my enemies aswell. Honour, virtue and chivalry, these qualities have all but died out in modern society, certainly in the society that I live in anyway. Words, promises and oaths are all very reliable when they come from the right lips but actions speak much more than words. A simple hand shake, pat on the back or nod, is all that you need to know that a promise will be kept.
As I live in england, I take part in the Duke of edinburgh award, which is all about proving yourself in the service of others, and the Duke of edinbrugh quotes that: “I hope you find pleasure in serving others and doing the right and moral thing”
I dont know about anyone else but I certainly found happiness in doing the right and moral thing and serving those whose loyalty is un-wavering, now that, that is true friendship.
Yagna !!
20 years old, hey ! that is quite Old U see lol !!
tell me something, if no one ever told u your date of birth, how would u know how old are you ?
aditya
Tom !
The british, their sence of fair play & justice, Honour, virtue and chivalry; these have had a very profound affect in shaping up the world as we see it today. U should be proud of the achievements of past generations of British people. If we find that the old values are fast eroding, it’s our responsibility to reinvent those old values to suit the modern times. Blaming people for their degradation is not going to help; the wols would have to lead by example, show a path to others as they themselves create it. Good luck freind ! as the americans say - godspeed !!
Dear Love,
One may temporarily forget many if not all of the important lessons taught by Life.
One may temporarily forget how to open one’s eyes to the Light.
Love will make you remember.
Be patient.
I don’t know nor how to get again there neither if my Lord will take me again to that place and that is why I feel deeply sad most of the time; because I am here, in a world that is like another world. Not mine. I have seen a lot of shadows here and I miss my Home. And my Family.
But they know that, and if I am here, it must be for something. Some day, I will go back to the Light again, :). Back to That Place where everything is so Bright …
so Bright :).
You can only smile when you remember my Place.
Thank you for what you write. Thank you for being Alive. I will go back. Don’t you think so? It cannot be other way.
I love you :).
Aditya,
Yes, these are all qualities that are fading fast and I do try and set an example, and it is correct, the world learns by example. I tell my friends that we should keep the old tradiitions alive but not everyone in the world is as considerable as everyone on this website. People are ignorrant, cocky and arrogant, but the good qualities live in people aswell. I get my sense of tradition from my family as we stand for old fashioned values. And I am very sorry to do this to you aditya but godspeed was a british saying, but trust me hardly any english use it, and we are very much so stereo-typed as being tea sipping, scon eating people with extremely posh accents, but thats just the stereo-type hey?
Has anyone here ever encountered fully unconditional love from another human being? I am wondering if human beings are even capable of such a feat?
I try to love everyone unconditionally, but I continually fail at it. I can forgive others for their transgressions, but is this unconditional love? Wouldn’t unconditional love not even ask for or expect apologies?
I feel so imperfect.:(
Any input would be appreciated.
With love of the (ahem) unconditional variety,
deb
Hi Deb !
am i happy to see you !!!!welcome.. stop trying to be perfect ! u r perfect as u r, God won’t have it otherwise, He merely wants us to wake up, enhance our consciousness !1 do waht u can in that direction ! leave everything else to Him !!
tom,
hey ! u need not be sorry at all for correcting me, I have always been thankful to people who have helped me correct my mistakes, thanks !! so long as even one tom exists amongst british people, the old values aren’t going to die ! they are a bit difficult to kill anyway ! they have lived the test of times. and secondly remember the whole earth can be again made green even if a single seed survives; even if only one tom hangs on, nurtures the seed of those values, any moment things may turn !! world is getting fed up of extream materialism and extream inequality, so godspeed, this time the british one, one thing one cannot miss about americans, they know how to spot the best in the world and then make it their own !!
love
aditya
Debbie Holmes, USA
It is only the dislike of some people that we can have friends. We look inside of people when they talk to us and we see the qualities that we like. Then, when we look at others, we see qualities that we dislike, this sets apart our friends and “enemies” in fact one of the things you are meant to do before you die is to make an enemy for life. It shows that you have a deep enough understanding of good and evil in the world.
My friend, imperfection is a good thing, if we were all pefect then we would all be the same, also there is not such thing as normal either, theres you and theres the rest.
Not everyone deserves unconditional love but everyone deserves a chance for forgiveness, love and be loved my friend, love and be loved.
Debbie … :),
It’s good to see you again :). As for your comment, I do not know what to say.
But I feel close to some human beings. I’m not sure if that is what you called unconditionall but, when I feel alone, down or whatever, the mere fact of thinking about them makes me feel better; good. You are one of those human beings even if I have not seen you.
Thinking about some human beings makes me smile even in the middle of the most horrible battle. I know they are with me, as I am with them (I heard once. And I believe that)
I can feel their presence, I would like to meet them some day. Would you like to come? :).
I hope you could feel content from now on. Me too …
Love,
Hope.
Hi Aditya! I’ve missed you and the others that used to chat here. Thanks for your comments.
Also, thanks, Tom, for your comments as well.
Although I know that none of us are perfect…I just find it curious that it’s almost impossible to love others unconditionally…and I’ve just been questioning the whole idea of it. Just getting philosophical about it.
In regards to what you said, Tom, about everyone having an enemy throughout their life…I don’t necessarily agree with that notion. Maybe I’m misunderstanding you.(?)
I believe that everyone mirrors to us either the qualities that we like or don’t like about ourselves, yet, that it’s our job to learn to love everyone, especially those we find it difficult to love, in order to fully accept all aspects of our character. I think that the point in enemies is that they’re there for our growth, but, that we shouldn’t keep them as enemies…but turn them into friends…even if it’s just in our minds and hearts…in order to fully love ourselves.
I suppose the reason I’ve been questioning this whole unconditional love idea is because I see how so many people can’t forgive other people..and I realize that it’s because they just aren’t able to look within and see their enemies as coming from within themselves. It’s only at that point that we can do the work of spiritual growth. Most people don’t seem to care about growing, and are more concerned with materialistic pursuits. I feel like I’m in the minority, and have missed chatting with others of like-mind, which is why I decided to check out this blog again.
I had a really cool meditation, yesterday, too, which I’d like to share….
During the meditation, I suddenly completely felt myself as a soul…as a huge mass of conscious energy…and saw my physical body as nothing more than a ‘pet’ that I use as an instrument to carry out my soul’s purpose. I saw and felt the struggle that I had been going through in trying to train this creature because of the DNA programming she has in her cells….in which she was constantly trying to identify herself with.
Once I realized this, I was able to put myself in perspective. I suddenly understood that if this body were to die, that I wouldn’t…that it’s really not me…even though I’ve known this, or felt this on one level, this meditation was so powerful for me that I felt a complete distance between myself as body and soul…and was able to unattach completely.
Now that I have this image in my mind of this debbie person being my pet, I am able to have even more compassion for her, and have a better idea of how to handle her! ha! How to whip her into shape with some discipline.
The good thing is that she’s already house broken…so I don’t have to worry about her peeing on the floors. 
That was a gross thing to say, wasn’t it? Sorry about that! Just being silly as always. 
Well, I must be off…thanks for taking the time to read this if you did….hope to chat more with you all real soon. Until then, take care!
love,
me and my pet deb
Hi Hope!
Thanks for the kind words.
I already posted more about what I meant, as you can see, but, since you mentioned it, I have a little more to say. (always!!ha!)
I guess I just keep seeing this in my own life, as well as of those around me…that in order to love someone, we always have conditions..spouses only love each other if the other person doesn’t cheat…friends only love each other as long as they agree…or as long as the person doesn’t do something against their idea of morals, etc. I have a friend who has been dating a married man, for example, and she said that all of her other friends won’t talk to her anymore and have shunned her. To me, it doesn’t matter what she does, I still love her anyways…just because she’s dating a married man, it doesn’t affect our relationship with each other. But, if she was dating MY husband, that would be a different matter! See! That’s my condition for her and my husband! THat’s not unconditional love. But, I feel that if this did happen…I’d hate her and him for a while, but I’d get over, realizing that this was just how it was meant to be…and I’d move on with my life and forgive them eventually, or so I’d hope!
But, who among us would be able to just say, ‘ok..you love each, that’s wonderful!’ from the start? Maybe there are some peope…if so I’d like to meet them. 
I’ll shut up now…I’m hoggin’ the blog again.
Sorry.
Take care!
love,
deb
No matter how sad it may seem, I do not think that this world can get any better or worse than it already is.
The moment that we think that we have brought more “goodness” into it, we will at the same time have been pushing our boundaries and redefined our previous “good” as “bad”.
There will always be two sides to every coin in this manifested part of universe, until all has been proved or rebutted depending on how you look at it.
Moreover, our continuous denial of this elementary fact, is a driving force of evolution. Our ignorance of the laws of nature, is driving evolution.
Until all knowledge is attained, we will develop this manifested universe into all of its potential forms. At every point in time, we will define half of those forms as “good” and half of those forms as “bad”.
If perfect means that everything is as it should be, then we and the world are perfect.
I feel that I have to express something.
I feel like if I were desperately needed of help.
I feel like, if the most important part of me, were buried or death (by the other part of me).
I feel like if I’d need a miracle because the life I am having, is too strange. Like if I were in the shadows (which is scary, you see). So strange Mother …
I am (I mean, the True woman who is somewhere inside me) very sad. Deeply sad because of the life I am currently having. That woman is crying. It’s very sad Mother, isn’t it?
Will you help Her? Will you help that poor child, poor girl who is just lost, Mother? Will You hear this sad voice who is trying to go back to the Light?
why r we so afraid of death ? remember socrates ! what he said !
when we were not, was that a cause for worry, when we won’t be is that a cause for worry.
in all this we go on missing that is, the present. unconitional love - only that is love which is unconditional, rest all may be anythingelse pretending to be love !!! so that is my take on it deb !
aditya
aditya,
Thankyou for what you said before, the whole world can be green again even if one seed survives, this message came at the right time, I feel alone at this time, even though I am surrounded by friends, I am doing very well in school, but something seems missing. I will make sure that the old traditions survive this century ! and also thankyou for correcting me, you pointed out you were a male. What you said made me laugh you know, I have always imagined tradition as an old man unwilling to give in his fight to stay alive, a bit like uncle sam, a symbolic old man ! Well thankyou for this.
On your more recent post, why are we afraid of death ? Maybe it is because we cling on to earthly possessions and we are afraid of, when we go losing everything, when I go, which is hopefully a long way away (I have got a personal legend to follow after all!) but yes, when I go I would just be happy to have someone to pass my possessions on to. but if you just think about death, then you realise that there is nothing to be afraid of, I once heard this in a movie but it is very true I think - “our bodies are prisons for our souls, and death decays all flesh, therefore death frees every soul”
take care deb ! of yourself and of your pet too !!
know that love is not demanding, it does not ask for anything, it knows only giving, is full of gratitude when the giving is received.
I know it’s a little difficult to come to terms with such love, but by and by…. if we remain focused ( on ourselves ?? ).
and why do u sound apologetic about hogging this blog ! i am sure Paulo and moderators would intervene if we are crossing any limits !! sometimes it’s better to trust in the wisedom of others ( read the universe, for there are only two entities, u and the universe, finally they are also one only )
love
aditya
hi tom!
could not help but ‘hog’ again !
thanks for your kind words; those who live their life like a romance, find that death too is romance, in any case why waste time bothering about something about which we will know ‘when time has come’ as u said we all have a personal legend to fulfill !! as Krishna says in Geeta, we have control over actions not over their consequences, as Paulo the archer has pointed out, let’s go on shooting our arrows, correcting ‘mistakes’ as we go along, enhancing our awareness, and most importantly enjoying every minute of it, the soarings in the sky limitless, the taste of dust as we lick it at times ! all is part of the ‘game’ called life. let’s discover ‘love’.
aditya
far from the light
have u heard of meditation !
AVC,
what u ahve said is the mechanism of this game of life, divide half into good half into bad, make two teams, ‘leela’ is on. there is no way, absolutely no way, when the whole of huamnity would togather march into this understanding, this field is of solo performance, so have been the sayings of those who have known !! groups, group efforts are joyous, but finally it’s solo, for there is ‘no two’
aditya
I think I understand what you are talking about.
I wouldn’t mind if my beloved one would decide to go with someone else; I wouldn’t be sad for that (even less angry). The only thing that I would like to know in such a case would be if the other man or woman or whatever is a Good one. If so, I would be content. Even I would go with them!!! :).
It’s nice to come here and see you all.
Best Wishes,
Hope and New Begings.
A.V.C., Yes, I do tend to agree with your sentiment that all is as it should be. I just tend to forget that when I start identifying with the body, which I’ve been doing lately. I always go back and forth between identifying with the body, and with the spirit…which is common for all of us here on this dualistic plane of existence.
Thanks for the reminder. 
Aditya, I think this also explains why people fear death…they are identifying with the body and not the soul, and fear the end of their existence. I personally don’t fear death for death’s sake…in fact, I have been having horrible chest and arm pains and think I’m not long for the planet. This morning I was having the pains again and was happy, thinking that maybe this was it!! ;)I get so sick of this place from time to time.
But, anyhow, the only thing that really bothers me is that I worry that I won’t accomplish what I came here to do, if my life is snuffed out too soon…but, then again, the belief that everything will happen as it should, then satisfies me and I feel peaceful again.
I do agree that love should be as you said…and my point from the start was basically…that I don’t know of any human being who can love others like this…and, as we’ve carried on about…perhaps this is how it should be…but it just annoys me because I know that feeling of love and wish I could live with it forever…but being in the body…well, you know the story! ha!
That’s one reason I stopped writing here because it’s all just a big ‘go-around’ of questions and belief-based answers…which is our entire life. Even though I have these certain beliefs….everything is all subject to change according the world of quantum physics…no one has all the answers - even though most people think they do.
Did I read that right that Tom referred to you, Aditya, as a female? Reading that comment from him made me laugh…brought back the memory of me thinking that about you, too, and how embarrassed I was! ha! But, you have such a gentle soul….which is why you come across that way to others. We all love you..whether you are a male or a female.
Happy holidays to everyone who is celebrating them at this time of year.
love,
deb
Hello Friends- Its my turn to hog this blog!
Far from the light, and love…
May God bless you. Mwah.
Allow me say, there is always hope- even in the most darkest times of your life, when u feel u have no one, there is always light, and if u look around you’ll realise there is always someone. So don’t give up just yet! and truthfully the fact that you’ve come here tells me that you want to find your way out of this hole your in. Far from the light, you say you need to express, why don’t you? have you tried writing or drawing or just doing something you love? Have you tried reading books like Conversations with God or the Prophet or the Secret or even one of Paulo’s books? Which will help remind you just how much hope there is
I’ve had sadness in my life at times, and i’ve been in dark places but i always get out, simply because i try. I’ll pray or i’ll write or i’ll do something i love just so i can remember what love is. To really feel it.. you know? Have you ever sat down and wrote down why your sad? like, everything, what you wished could have happened? or how you’d changes this right now in this instant? It helps alot, i did that the other day, and believe it or not, a simple pen and paper eased my heart a bit. You have the power to be happy, to change your world. Do it. You can do it. There is always a way, all you have to so is believe. Write down as well, what you are grateful for, to remind you, and write down what you want and sit and find ways out of your problems so that you can be happy. Because my dear, happiness is the most important thing in this world. I know its often scary to getting yourself up, but its time you said- “Screw you fear! i dare you to stop me!” I know it may sound silly, but the moment you can work through your fears, you’ll find it far, far more easier to get up again and have the life you’ve always dreamed of. By the way the actual philsophy was thought up by my cousin who seems to be in a similar situation as you- the proper words are F**K FEAR. LOL (I don’t think i should be swearing on Paulo’s blog lol).. I have faith in you and my cousin- that you both have the power to get through this. If i can ever be of service to ya, just let me know
Aditya…
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Sorry for disappearing there for a bit- but i’m back. Hmmm.. i’m not sure how old i would hey.. truth is, i’ve never actually felt my age throughout my life. I’ve always felt older in many ways, and i tend to befriend older people as well. hmmm.. how old would u say i am? if u didnt know i was 20, judging from my comments? (Be honest, this i’d love to hear! in fact anyone can answer this question!
tom and aditya…
hmmm.. about death, truthfully i’m not afriad of death i just don’t want to die right now. lol, as much as that may sound absurd, i just feel i have alot to accomplish before i die, and i think that death itself is a good thing. Its always sad to lose someone close to you, and its the pain of not having that person around that really scares a person i think. I know it certainly scares me. That feeling of missing someone. Its completely final and thats why i feel that its of the utmost importance to be happy each day and to live completely without regret. I lost a very close family friend of mine last week and he just never woke up from his sleep. This entire experience made me feel completely vulnarable to the universe, to the world, to God… and i realised that very feeling of powerlessness is what makes alot of people afraid. I also realised, that so much as i, and the entire population is vulnarable to death, to fear it would just aggrivate the sitution, what i should rather do i believe in the grand scheme of things, that maybe, just maybe everything is perfectly the way it should be. I do however pray for his family and hope that they will be alright, somwhow. Oh, and on a more lighter note, aditya, i loved your comment, “lets discover love :)” it made feel rather confident and somewhat empowered to do so
You and you pet deb..
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I, like most people are a working progress. I try to love without condition as much as i can. I think the best example of this is whn someone you love dies. Many people are so engrossed in the fact that that person isnt there, they let the pain and the loss of the presence of that person get to them. However, in my experience, if you continue to love that person, without the condition of them being there, you start to feel them inside you, and you live with them inside you because of that love. When it comes to affairs, your friend is being judged by others for her actions, and the people who have shunned her are certainly not her friends. In the case where your husband is coming along and telling you his fallen for someone else, you can’t just be alright and let him go be happy with his new lover and love everyone, simply because its not so black and white. Your emotions are involved, and as much as he may have gained a lover, u have lost one, in a sense and because of this hurt you may not feel that way at the time. Truth is, over time you may continue to love your husband, even if he is not with you and you may continue to love him without him being there- in fact you may even love him far more than you ever did. That is more like unconditional love, and i feel that uncondtional love, at times often doesn’t just happen, but takes a bit of time for people to settle in, to adjust to changes, deal with their emotions and forgive the person for their wrong. Just always remember, that everything also happens in its own time. However, there is a different time of uncondtional love that you can experience, and that is for a stranger. I’ve experienced it at times which i found very liberating. 
hmmm.. i don’t knoe if i helped in anyway, but just don’t be to hard on yourself, persist on thing you love and stay focused with your meditation, and you’ll see, everything will workout perfectly.
Out of curiousity, whats your name if your pets name is debbie?
I admire the fact that you trying to love unconditionally. I know what mean when u say that there seems to be conditions everywhere these days. I like your pet concept
AVC..
I understand completely what your saying, in fact i do also agree with it to an extent. However i have one problem with this- whats the point of doing anything worthwhile if the world id perfect the way it right now? So many people are striving to make this world a better place, to help others or even make their lived better, whats happens to them if they all start to see as the world as perfect? Would it do more harm then good?
Wow i can talk alot.. i think i did my fair share of hogging paulo’s blog.. lol..
Allow to say one last thing- i love this blog, and in some strange way i find we’ve all becaome friends, and i must admit, i’m liking it, alot
God Bless.. Mwah
Lots of love
Yajna
Hi Deb !
On an average ( I read somewhere !) an normal adult thinks of suicide at least 3-4 times in their life ( females more than males, for obvious reasons ), and many more times one wishes one were dead, that death may be a releief ( which it actually is, if I beleive my masters ), but there certainly is no hurry, about personal legend stuff — we don’t really need to become extraoridinary like say Paulo, all we need to do is find that one thing doing which gives us more pleasure than the outcome; then just be at it; let’s stop trying to be extraordinary, being ordinary is perfectly ‘cool’.
I Wish U, Paulo, Yagna, Vishesh, Tom, AVC, agni, ….. everyone here ( and eelsewhere )
A merry Christmas & a happy, blissful New year.
We should celebrate the birth of the man who showed us what was unconditional love, practically demostrated it; I celebrated the day by visit our own version of Zesus, Krishna, to a place where he escaped to after the great war, i went to Dwarka, It was an amazing expereince, the few moments that i spent in front of the idol; whether my anticipation did something to me, the long ( although very comfortable) road journey, or is there something in such places of worship which have withstood the test of times.
Deb your comments about my gender brought smile to my face too; bY a foreign name one cannot make out the gender, so I am surprised why u & tom too were feeling apologetic, perhaps u british and english are so nice & civil is the reason.
Yagna,
No issues buddy ! freinds understand when responses get delayed, it’s OK we are all allowed period of break from everything.
about Deb’s pet’s name being Deb then what is Deb’s name, Deb has no name, just as u or I. names are all for our assuemed relaities, something which facilitates the ‘world’
about u’r age, sorry to diasppoint you, but I just cacnot fathom age of anyone basis what they write, or by the way they behave, for me there are only two types of people young , who press on, enjoying, being a wol and old those who have given up. So U are most certainly young and would continue to remain so, till your dying day. One of my current masters is just 6 years old, and his advise has been helpful to me since I cared to notice, when he shocked me first time with his ‘dhyan smabhalna’ statement, when he was 3 1/2 maybe.
about wisdom and age - the theory of reincarnation makes physical age problematic to coorerelate with inteccetual age, in our folk tales we have story of a 5 years old child who was said to be an incarnation of Lord Shankar. the youg fellow was playing when the King of Mithila passed by ( this true story !! is reported to be about 100 yers old , everyone bowed to him, except this young boy. King was little perplexed, not angry mind you, in Mithila we did not allow agngry kings. He asked the boy, why he had not bowed to the king, the boy instead of answering directly, asked him to get fetched a coconut. pronto, it was there, afterall he was a king. the boy bows to the coconut and it goes boom, blast. Boy says, unless your spiritual powers are more than mine if I bow to youm, your head too may go boom, now tell me should I bow to you. King bowed to the boy, both continued with their respective works, king on his elephant and boy in his mud. the actual statement from the boy is in poetry in snskrit, beautiful verses, which appeard sweet music to our ears when we heard it from our grandfather the first time, amybe we ourselves were about 5-6 years old. later we realised the story may have been fabricated to make us study harder, the young boy had said something like ” even without completeing 5 years, i have mapped out the three worlds ” and here we were struggling with out a b c.
AVC,
cheer up man, it’s chritmas time, forget whether this world can be made any better or worse, on the whole. You and I can most cretainly make the immediate environment we live in a better place, by spredaing some smiles, by not littering, by a kind word there, a wink here.
merry christmas and a blissful new year to all and that old silent monk paulo too who won’t say anything eitherway about that wol device…. and to
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me
ha ha ha !!
having said this yagna,
let me add, if u are where u are at 20, just hang on long enough and you may…….
aditya
Hello Yajna and thank you for your words.
Of course you can help me, you can keep me in your mind; in your thoughts. Then, just try to think that I need your Help because I am living in a nightmare.
Just send Good thoughts to me, ok?
Goddess bless you.
Hi Expert, what made you want to write on n°161 : Convention of those wounded in love at Warrior Of Light? I was wondering, because I have been thinking about this since last Monday.