By Paulo Coelho
In this case the title of the newsletter is not right. Since in the previous Warrior of Light Online I said refused to write about the reasons why men love woman (I would be considered a male chauvinist South-American writer who despises the liberation movement of the opposite sex), a reader called Julia decided to do it for me. So now we have the feminine version of why we love women. Of course, I don’t agree with everything, but this is a (relatively) free tribune. Let’s see what Julia has to tell us:
We men love women because they still feel they are adolescents even after they grow old.
Because they smile every time they pass a child.
Because they walk down the street erect, always looking straight ahead, never turning round to say thanks or return the smile or compliment we make when they pass by.
Because they are bold in bed, not because they have a perverse nature but because they want to please us.
Because they do everything necessary for the house to be tidy and perfect, and never expect any recognition for the work they have done.
Because they don’t read pornographic magazines.
Because they don’t complain about the sacrifices they make for the sake of the ideal of beauty, facing up to waxers, Botox injections and menacing machines in gyms.
Because they prefer to eat salads.
Because they draw and paint their faces with the same concentration as Michelangelo working on the Sistine Chapel.
Because if they want to know something about their own appearance, they ask other women and don’t bother us with this type of question.
Because they have their own ways of solving problems, which we never understand, and that makes us mad.
Because they feel compassion, and say “I love you” precisely when they are beginning to love us less, to make up for what we can feel and notice.
Because sometimes they complain about things that we feel too, such as colds and rheumatic pains, and then we understand that they are people just like us.
Because they write love stories.
Because while our armies invade other countries, they remain firm in their private and inexplicable war to put an end to all the cockroaches in the world.
Because they cry their eyes out when they hear the Rolling Stones singing “Angie”.
Because they are capable of going to work dressed like men, in their delicate little suits, whereas no man would ever dare go to work wearing a skirt.
Because in the movies – and only in the movies – they never take a shower before making love with their partners.
Because they always manage to find a convincing defect when we say that another woman is pretty, making us feel insecure about our taste.
Because they really take seriously everything that is happening in the private lives of celebrities.
Because they manage to fake orgasms with the same artistic quality as the most famous and talented of movie stars.
Because they just love exotic cocktails with different colors and delicate little ornaments, while we always have the same old whiskey.
Because they don’t waste hours thinking about how they are going to approach the pretty young man who has just come on the bus.
Because we came from them, will go back to them, and until that happens, live in orbit around the feminine body and soul.
And I would add: we men love them for being women. As simple as that.
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It really was a good read. Funny at many instances.
i just found your site ,and i enjoy reading it…you are Great Paulo…love,Genta
I think this article is a little bit old fashioned. I do not agree on the part that it says that we clean the house and we do not expect a compliment or recognition. That is not true. In my case I do expect a little of consideration and hope that my husband tries to keep the house as clean as it is. I as a woman do not eat only salads, I love all kinds of food. I may not be perverse in bed, but I do love making love.(Not only to please my husband, but instead to please myself)
I think that men have alot to learn from women.
The most important things a men should know of a women are as follows:
1. We are of a sensible nature
2. We need to be loved with sweetness
3. Most women (even if they don’t say it) love flowers
4. If a man wants to make love, he needs to say sweet things
5. We love to be caressed
6. We love to feel like a princess
7. We can do anything for that special man
8. Give our life if possible for that true love
Men love no only women but the men too -just like the women love men also women.
All is about the desire and need to touch and to be touched ,to listen and to be listened -this is our basic deep instinct. . .
And if we choose woman or man -it depends of our sexual orientation.
All the reasons writen above are nice and funny -it was nice to read them but truth is much more simple and short -that´s all.
simply because a man is a child inside that needs nurturing that only a woman can give..
The men love no only women but the men too – just like the women like no only men. All is about our desire and need to touch and be touched, to listen and to be listened .This need is so great that we are capable to close our eyes and to tolerate many defectes .
And if we decide to live with woman or man depend only to our sexual orientation.
All those reasons what were writen above are very nice and I´m sure they can have influence to our selection but the truth is more simple and short as that memorandum.
Paulo, I love your spirit, your sensitiviness and your intuition. I believe there is something called chemistry that works wonders when we are in love. Emotions is something we can not control cause they are from within and make us feel like flying once we got them for love. Thank you for being there! and thank you for expressing what my fingers can not do.. A huge hug
Dear Paulo ,
I agree with you. We love them for what they are;for what they can bring to our life and encourage us to make a difference in our life.
I’m not sure about this. I think men love women for the same reason that women love men, because ultimately we see in them the other half of our soul. A woman’s spirit/soul usually appears as male and vice versa; God is masculine/feminine united in love. At least, this is one way of defining God.
Cx
I actually think the title shouldnt say ´´believe´´ because actually we are very sure that you men love us for all the reasons that Paulo Colhelo wrote !
Lovely! Bits of everything but I can say Paulo loves (profoundly) women.
I am happy with all the statements written here, even if there are some of them with which I don’t identify myself with (in practice) but I have been there in my thoughts… which is pretty much the same thing, so I’m this woman that Paulo writes about and I am really proud of it!
Um abraço do fundo do coração e cheio de amor para ti, Paulo.
promise i enjoy reading your site..
tnx… and take care..
Oh dear, I am laughing out loud!! This reminds me of an email that a male cousin sent along one day, about this very topic. I wrote back to ask if ‘the list’ was true. He was laughing himself silly, so then I knew there could be a grain of truth, but largely meant as humor. I might well be a North American female chauvanist – in overalls ; ) Love, Jane xo
Hey Paulo… you seem to be very young the way you write this. It keeps me jumping off my feet with laughter. Partly they are true and I hope women won’t brag this out much.lol